does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
He moved over to london frim Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
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Thats really good that this guy tells you everything. I guess its a good sign that he is sincere to you. But im kinda confused of changing his status on Facebook. I guess the guy should really finish his business/relationship with his ex-gf. If the guy is being honest with you,he should do the same with his ex also.. If they still seeing with each other,i guess there's something also might happened with that .. I might say that dont give all your hopes and trust with this guy,coz i think this guy is not really sure what he wants/likes in life... Mybe this guy is kinda confuse to with his feelings to ex and to you..
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As you said , he has just moved to london and met you.But he has been wid his ex for 4 years.Am sorry to say dis but they might be just takin a break .He is new to london and jus wants someone who can help him familiarise so that he does not feel homesick.Mark my words if he goes home for christmas an meets his ex ,feelings will definetely gush in an he may fall for her again.and as its a small town , many people will know abt der breakup and will try to make things work out.it is very diff to break a 4 yr old relationship very easily.But you just have to give him some space and stop bugging him.if he does not want to change the status in facebook ,jus agree wid him...He is probably confused now and might feel guilty cuz he got a galfrnd so soon after breakin a 4 yr relationship.and he might nt have the strength to tell abt it to his ex.jus give him some time an make him happy.let him talk abt his ex to u.Listen carefully an try not to do things which his ex did to annoy him.he will tell u abt the things which make himhappy...try to do dose things.Make him feel that he has got a new life because of u.Al de best.Lead a happy life.Don worry Be happy
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
How can I help my girlfriend become more independent?
How can I help my girlfriend become more independent?
I am 24 and my girlfriend is 22. We have been together for 3 years. I have moved from the UK to Spain to be with her. She is Spanish and I am English. I have been in Spain now for over a year. I have 2 businesses and work as an IT consultant remotely telecommuting. Although I don't make great money I have huge drive and focus on this in my life. I live with 3 other flat mates as otherwise I would be lonely in Spain and I enjoy saving the extra money. She has never lived with me and she lives with her parents. She calls her parents to ask the most basic of questions regularly. She does not have a full time job although has finished university. She is not actively looking for a full time job. Her parents treat us like kids not adults - I have to sleep in a separate bed when I come to stay in my girlfriends house and they talk to her like a child. Whenever I try to discuss serious points in our relationship e.g: traveling, finances, business, working abroad, moving in together, sex etc she gets: angry, bored, ignores me or she comes to kiss and cuddle me. She finds sex hurts - she lost her virginity to me but can't enjoy sex. She never masturbates alone or with me. She refuses to go to OBGYN or says she will but never does - she never has been. She is constantly tired and moans about stomach problems all the time. Whenever I talk to her about money she gets angry at people with money and refuses to even read about the basics of making money. Even basics in personal finance. She is unable to focus on what she wants from life and spends most of her days on her parents sofa watching TV, on Facebook and talking to her friends on instant messenger. I feel like I am putting so much into the relationship but her parents are holding her back. What can I do?
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sorry but it sounds like ur in a dead end relationship...id break it off. =[ answer mine? http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090105144402AARIJvO
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she is still a child even though shes 22 she hasnt grown up yet, you however fortunately have. this is most likely how she will be for the rest of your relationship, this is how she is, she isnt going to change anytime soon. is she worth it?
I am 24 and my girlfriend is 22. We have been together for 3 years. I have moved from the UK to Spain to be with her. She is Spanish and I am English. I have been in Spain now for over a year. I have 2 businesses and work as an IT consultant remotely telecommuting. Although I don't make great money I have huge drive and focus on this in my life. I live with 3 other flat mates as otherwise I would be lonely in Spain and I enjoy saving the extra money. She has never lived with me and she lives with her parents. She calls her parents to ask the most basic of questions regularly. She does not have a full time job although has finished university. She is not actively looking for a full time job. Her parents treat us like kids not adults - I have to sleep in a separate bed when I come to stay in my girlfriends house and they talk to her like a child. Whenever I try to discuss serious points in our relationship e.g: traveling, finances, business, working abroad, moving in together, sex etc she gets: angry, bored, ignores me or she comes to kiss and cuddle me. She finds sex hurts - she lost her virginity to me but can't enjoy sex. She never masturbates alone or with me. She refuses to go to OBGYN or says she will but never does - she never has been. She is constantly tired and moans about stomach problems all the time. Whenever I talk to her about money she gets angry at people with money and refuses to even read about the basics of making money. Even basics in personal finance. She is unable to focus on what she wants from life and spends most of her days on her parents sofa watching TV, on Facebook and talking to her friends on instant messenger. I feel like I am putting so much into the relationship but her parents are holding her back. What can I do?
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sorry but it sounds like ur in a dead end relationship...id break it off. =[ answer mine? http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090105144402AARIJvO
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she is still a child even though shes 22 she hasnt grown up yet, you however fortunately have. this is most likely how she will be for the rest of your relationship, this is how she is, she isnt going to change anytime soon. is she worth it?
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
How can I help my girlfriend become more independent?
How can I help my girlfriend become more independent?
I am 25 and my girlfriend is 22. We have been together for 4 years. I have moved from the UK to Spain to be with her. She is Spanish and I am English. I have been in Spain now for nearly 2 years. I have 2 businesses and work as an IT consultant remotely telecommuting. Although I don't make great money I have huge drive and focus on this in my life. I live with 3 other flat mates as otherwise I would be lonely in Spain and I enjoy saving the extra money. I have lived away from home since I was 18. My girlfriend has lived away from home once for 3 months in the UK which she regularly reminds me was the best time of her life ( I was left behind in Spain during this ). She has never lived with me, she lives with her parents. She calls her parents to ask the most basic of questions regularly. She does not have a full time job although has finished university. She is not actively looking for a full time job, she recently turned down a job interview for a job in her profession. Her parents treat us like kids not adults - I have to sleep in a separate bed when I come to stay in my girlfriends house and they talk to her like a child. Whenever I try to discuss serious points in our relationship e.g: traveling, finances, business, working abroad, moving in together, sex etc she gets: angry, bored, ignores me or she comes to kiss and cuddle me. She finds sex hurts - she lost her virginity to me but can't enjoy sex. She never masturbates alone or with me. Until recently she refused to go to the OBGYN, she refused to pay 150 euros for a private doctor and has to wait up to 6 months for results. She is constantly tired and moans about stomach problems almost every day. She is unfit and lethargic and refuses to do fitness. Whenever I talk to her about money she gets angry at people with money especially successful businessmen and refuses to even read about the basics of making money. Even basics in personal finance. She is unable to focus on what she wants from life and spends most of her days on her parents sofa watching TV, on Facebook and talking to her friends on instant messenger. I feel like I am putting so much into the relationship but her parents are holding her back. She seems quite content the way things are but I am not. What can I do?
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make her join the army
I am 25 and my girlfriend is 22. We have been together for 4 years. I have moved from the UK to Spain to be with her. She is Spanish and I am English. I have been in Spain now for nearly 2 years. I have 2 businesses and work as an IT consultant remotely telecommuting. Although I don't make great money I have huge drive and focus on this in my life. I live with 3 other flat mates as otherwise I would be lonely in Spain and I enjoy saving the extra money. I have lived away from home since I was 18. My girlfriend has lived away from home once for 3 months in the UK which she regularly reminds me was the best time of her life ( I was left behind in Spain during this ). She has never lived with me, she lives with her parents. She calls her parents to ask the most basic of questions regularly. She does not have a full time job although has finished university. She is not actively looking for a full time job, she recently turned down a job interview for a job in her profession. Her parents treat us like kids not adults - I have to sleep in a separate bed when I come to stay in my girlfriends house and they talk to her like a child. Whenever I try to discuss serious points in our relationship e.g: traveling, finances, business, working abroad, moving in together, sex etc she gets: angry, bored, ignores me or she comes to kiss and cuddle me. She finds sex hurts - she lost her virginity to me but can't enjoy sex. She never masturbates alone or with me. Until recently she refused to go to the OBGYN, she refused to pay 150 euros for a private doctor and has to wait up to 6 months for results. She is constantly tired and moans about stomach problems almost every day. She is unfit and lethargic and refuses to do fitness. Whenever I talk to her about money she gets angry at people with money especially successful businessmen and refuses to even read about the basics of making money. Even basics in personal finance. She is unable to focus on what she wants from life and spends most of her days on her parents sofa watching TV, on Facebook and talking to her friends on instant messenger. I feel like I am putting so much into the relationship but her parents are holding her back. She seems quite content the way things are but I am not. What can I do?
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make her join the army
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Is this girl avoiding me?
Is this girl avoiding me?
My friend introduced me to a girl about 2 months ago on facebook, I'm from the UK she's from hong kong. I've got to know her quite rapidly, exchanging loads of messages everyday. After 2 weeks things died down a bit but would still keep in contact via the odd message and the msn chat. Most of the time it's always me initiating contact. Coincidentally I would be in hk for 2 months and we have been discussing activities we might do when I get over there. Now I'm over there I've only seen her briefly over lunch, what activities we were gonna do has not been mentioned. It's the 3rd week and arranged a dinner date but unfortunately she got ill so that got cancelled. There has not been once she has initiated a conversation with me at all since I've been here. Should I put more effort or maybe accept that maybes she's not interested at all. She has put me in a position where I question does she or doesn't she like me? Totally confused!! She does speak to me on MSN, there's no problem with that. Sometimes it's hot sometimes cold. I will be working in HK in the near future and she knows that. One thing I was puzzled about was she actually got her sister and female cousin to go on the lunch date. After that she sweetly found me a ticket to a sold out exhibition I wanted to go. Well she couldn't go due to work commitments so I went with her sister, cousin and mom, now how uncomfortable was that. Just proper confused, there's glimpses where she's interested and glimpses where she's not bothered.
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yep, she's avoiding you alright. sorry to break the news. i would forget about the whole thing. long-distance relationships rarely work out -- especially those that manifested through the internet. wait until she makes the next move -- if she ever does.
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First of all, I definitely sympathize with you, it's annoying when you start talking so often and then nothing. I feel like you have been the one communicating the most and that gets extremely tiring after a while, since both people should equally communicate. It's her fault for making future plans and not following through with them. It might just be the fact that you two are long distance and she either can't handle it, is not interested in having long distance or might just see you as a friend. Through experience, the only way to know is to ask her. I know it might be a scary thought, but she is the only one with the answer. Don't plan what to say, just go ahead and say what is on your mind and ask her how she feels. You will feel much better, even though you might not get the answer you were looking for, at least you know. hope this helps :)
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I think you should occasionally try and make contact with her. If she didn't want to talk to you then she would defiantly ignore you and you would get the vibe. She might just be shy, but if you really feel awkward and confused just ask her to go on a dinner date one more time. If she declines because she's sick or due to other circumstances then ask her to let you know when a better time would be. If her answer gives off the feeling where she doesn't want to then just forget about it. Dont worry theres plenty of people in Hong Kong. You can find a way to have fun. Im sure a lot of people would enjoy your company! Just keep your head up. YOUR THE MAN! ;)
My friend introduced me to a girl about 2 months ago on facebook, I'm from the UK she's from hong kong. I've got to know her quite rapidly, exchanging loads of messages everyday. After 2 weeks things died down a bit but would still keep in contact via the odd message and the msn chat. Most of the time it's always me initiating contact. Coincidentally I would be in hk for 2 months and we have been discussing activities we might do when I get over there. Now I'm over there I've only seen her briefly over lunch, what activities we were gonna do has not been mentioned. It's the 3rd week and arranged a dinner date but unfortunately she got ill so that got cancelled. There has not been once she has initiated a conversation with me at all since I've been here. Should I put more effort or maybe accept that maybes she's not interested at all. She has put me in a position where I question does she or doesn't she like me? Totally confused!! She does speak to me on MSN, there's no problem with that. Sometimes it's hot sometimes cold. I will be working in HK in the near future and she knows that. One thing I was puzzled about was she actually got her sister and female cousin to go on the lunch date. After that she sweetly found me a ticket to a sold out exhibition I wanted to go. Well she couldn't go due to work commitments so I went with her sister, cousin and mom, now how uncomfortable was that. Just proper confused, there's glimpses where she's interested and glimpses where she's not bothered.
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yep, she's avoiding you alright. sorry to break the news. i would forget about the whole thing. long-distance relationships rarely work out -- especially those that manifested through the internet. wait until she makes the next move -- if she ever does.
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First of all, I definitely sympathize with you, it's annoying when you start talking so often and then nothing. I feel like you have been the one communicating the most and that gets extremely tiring after a while, since both people should equally communicate. It's her fault for making future plans and not following through with them. It might just be the fact that you two are long distance and she either can't handle it, is not interested in having long distance or might just see you as a friend. Through experience, the only way to know is to ask her. I know it might be a scary thought, but she is the only one with the answer. Don't plan what to say, just go ahead and say what is on your mind and ask her how she feels. You will feel much better, even though you might not get the answer you were looking for, at least you know. hope this helps :)
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I think you should occasionally try and make contact with her. If she didn't want to talk to you then she would defiantly ignore you and you would get the vibe. She might just be shy, but if you really feel awkward and confused just ask her to go on a dinner date one more time. If she declines because she's sick or due to other circumstances then ask her to let you know when a better time would be. If her answer gives off the feeling where she doesn't want to then just forget about it. Dont worry theres plenty of people in Hong Kong. You can find a way to have fun. Im sure a lot of people would enjoy your company! Just keep your head up. YOUR THE MAN! ;)
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