facebook poke, what do i do?
I just received a 'poke' on facebook, not just from anyone, but from an ex-girlfriend I went to college with. We dated the 1st half of 2009 and through the summer, at which point she broke it off because she felt that she didn't have the same type of feelings for me as I did for her. I was pretty upset about it for a while because it was my first serious relationship. Anyway, after we returned to campus in the Fall, I made some half-hearted attempts to get back with her by suggesting we hang out (mostly it was in my head hoping she would conclude she made a mistake, but that never happened), and it eventually turned into sporadic coffee dates to update our lives to each other. In the start of 2010, I met and got together with a new girl from my classes and while we've never officially defined anything, we have been spending time together ever since. I have not spoken to my ex, other than a couple short conversations online, in close to a year. I am studying abroad this term in Germany, and she is in England this term. We have not discussed trying to meet up. Her birthday was 3 days ago, I did not write 'happy birthday' on her facebook wall as I do not usually for anyone outside of my best friends. Considering we have not spoken in so long, I'm not sure what to interpret from the speechless communication of a facebook poke. Why a poke? Why not a facebook wall post 'hey, how have you been?' or an email or a message? Do I poke back? Do I ignore? Do I message back? Please help!
Other - Family & Relationships - 6 Answers
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give her a poke with your meat stick!
2 :
OMG it is just a poke. Poke her back, then hey whatever. Talk, or don't. You are totally overthinking.
3 :
sounds like she is trying to get your attention so i would talk to her see whats going on and you know have a good chat. hopes this helps
4 :
Just poke her back. A poke doesn't mean anything.
5 :
A poke is a sweet little thing. Its a way of saying "hey" without having to. That is all. It could be flirtacious. Seems like you have some unfinished business with her, but don't pursue it right now, as you are seeing someone else. Poke back and keep poking if she responds. Its cute, but if you don't want to be "cute" with her, then just X the poke.
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She probably poked you because you didn't wish her a happy birthday-lol...I wouldn't sweat it...don't poke back...
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Thursday, October 28, 2010
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
He moved over to london frim Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
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They have telephones in Ireland do they not? I think he sees you as a temporary dalliance and he doesn't want anyone to find out at home. He is being dishonest with his girlfriend at home and he is using you. I would dump him, cause I really believe you are in way over your head and are fixing to get your heart broken yet again. Always listen to your gut, if it looks like a duck, it is probably a duck.
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He moved over to london frim Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
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They have telephones in Ireland do they not? I think he sees you as a temporary dalliance and he doesn't want anyone to find out at home. He is being dishonest with his girlfriend at home and he is using you. I would dump him, cause I really believe you are in way over your head and are fixing to get your heart broken yet again. Always listen to your gut, if it looks like a duck, it is probably a duck.
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Thursday, October 7, 2010
Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
He moved over to london frim Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
Marriage & Divorce - 6 Answers
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no
2 :
do you get paid to post this nonsense over and over again?
3 :
girl if he ain't willing to splash it all over Facebook you need to drop his azz how disrespectful he is being towards you by not acknowledging you to all his Facebook "friends"
4 :
if he cant tell the world he loves you. he might not.
5 :
I think he might be for real what you need to do is tell him to tell her right away so you can feel more confident.If he does not tell her then you might want to keep your eyes open.I have a feeling he is telling the truth and does care for you by what you have said about him.Let him know this is bothering you.
6 :
Yes
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He moved over to london frim Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
Marriage & Divorce - 6 Answers
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no
2 :
do you get paid to post this nonsense over and over again?
3 :
girl if he ain't willing to splash it all over Facebook you need to drop his azz how disrespectful he is being towards you by not acknowledging you to all his Facebook "friends"
4 :
if he cant tell the world he loves you. he might not.
5 :
I think he might be for real what you need to do is tell him to tell her right away so you can feel more confident.If he does not tell her then you might want to keep your eyes open.I have a feeling he is telling the truth and does care for you by what you have said about him.Let him know this is bothering you.
6 :
Yes
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Friday, October 1, 2010
She would not talk to me at all, what should I do?
She would not talk to me at all, what should I do?
Hi everyone, I have been with this girl since December 2007 and I love her loads. She is my first long term and serious relationship. Anyways, we have been having a long distance relationship ever since we started. I was seeing her on average every 2/3 weeks over the whole period. We somehow managed to make it work even though I was the one that was always going to see her. Recently, we had been discussing engagement and it got really stressfull with lots of pressure and we started fighting and she started saying very hurtful things and how I am not worth it and that my family is controlling me and changing our plans. We were supposed to get engaged 26th December but because of family committements, I told her to move it to 29th. So she started being abusive saying really harsh things that I am very weak and emotional and that I was not worth it. She made me so angry that the next day I said really horrible things to her on facebook and since I had access to her account, blocked her out of it and said very mean things. OK, I agree what I did is very immature and silly and I regret doing it very much. I restored all as it was, deleted messages and gave her the account back. I have been feeling really bad about it since it happened and I have tried so many times to reach her by phone, texts, e-mails but she is not replying to me at all. I have explained that I am sorry, I regret what I did, that I'll do what it takes to fix things with her, her family and friends and whoever saw the messages I wrote. I have been thinking about it all and I really miss her lots and can't stop thinking about her. I have been so miserable lately and I can't get her out of my head and can't wait to get her back. I have sent her flowers once as well. Yesterday was our second anniversary and it was especially hard. By the way, I am now living in London and she is finishing her studies in Paris. What I don't understand is how she can forget all that we shared over one incident? Yes it was ugly and not small but I really did not mean it and I lost it that day. I am now thinking to go and see her next weekend in Paris to talk since I can't get through to her. I know that she will probably still not want to talk to me but it is a risk I have to take cos she means the world to me! We have a common friend there and he will try to invite her over to their place and then I'll come over and hopefully we can talk. I am planning to send her flowers every day this week to soften her heart. She is a very stubborn person and not very forthcoming with her emotions and she can be really cold. I have done so much for her, stood by her last year when her mother passed away, when she was finding it tough at uni, always supported her, used to go to Paris to cheer her up and make her feel good. By the way I am 29 and she is 28. I want some genuine advice on what to do! I am completely lost and all I can think of is wanting her back. Yes, we have had out fights and bad moments but for me we have had so much more happier moments and it is those that are keeping me attached. Thanks to everyone for their advice. I admit it was very immature and I was so mad that day and completely out of control. I regret that extremely. Should I go and see her or just accept it is over even though I still love her and can't wait to get her back? should i go to Paris to see her and talk to her? She has never cheated on me and I know that there is no other guy.
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If she can say horrible and abusive things about your worth, you need to see a big red flag there. If you think that she does this as a defensive thing about being hurt - then tell her that's something you need her to work on if you both decide to give the relationship another go. Flowers do help - but if she's that stubborn and it's about how she's better than you and you're worth less... that may be something that is always there. You should never, NEVER be with someone who puts you down or doesn't feel lucky and appreciative to have you in their life. The Facebook thing was dumb, and immature. You're 29? Behave that way, as I was reading this I thought that I was reading something from a 15 y/o. Good Luck.
2 :
I had something similar happen to me a few years back and it turned out in the end that because we were so far apart for so long, she cheated on me a few times. After she cheated on me, suddenly she was a different person; tactless, aggressive, cold and heartless. In retrospect, I should have just dumped her and moved on. But love doesn't make thesse decisionas any easier. I ended up getting hurt badly, HATING her and losing a good chunk of my early twenties feeling depressed. If this girl is the love of your life, sit her down one day and talk to her face to face about everything. Lay it all out, no secrets, no regrets -- just talk to her as openly as possible. Ask her tough questions. Be firm. It will be a hard moment, maybe even ugly, but at least you'll have a clear picture of what's going on inside her head. Before you make up your mind, take a day or two to think about everything you talked about and try to view it as objectively as possible. After all, you're talking about engagement and marriage.. if you can't work out problems before getting married, if you eventually walk down that path your married life may be even harder. One more thing, if she's also your friend, then try to approach that angle. Use a bit of humor when you're talking to her. Be friendly. Don't be too serious or obsessive because that may frighten her off. There's also a chance she's just really nervous about the whole thing to begin with. Marriage is a pretty big deal. Either way man, best of luck to you.
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Hi everyone, I have been with this girl since December 2007 and I love her loads. She is my first long term and serious relationship. Anyways, we have been having a long distance relationship ever since we started. I was seeing her on average every 2/3 weeks over the whole period. We somehow managed to make it work even though I was the one that was always going to see her. Recently, we had been discussing engagement and it got really stressfull with lots of pressure and we started fighting and she started saying very hurtful things and how I am not worth it and that my family is controlling me and changing our plans. We were supposed to get engaged 26th December but because of family committements, I told her to move it to 29th. So she started being abusive saying really harsh things that I am very weak and emotional and that I was not worth it. She made me so angry that the next day I said really horrible things to her on facebook and since I had access to her account, blocked her out of it and said very mean things. OK, I agree what I did is very immature and silly and I regret doing it very much. I restored all as it was, deleted messages and gave her the account back. I have been feeling really bad about it since it happened and I have tried so many times to reach her by phone, texts, e-mails but she is not replying to me at all. I have explained that I am sorry, I regret what I did, that I'll do what it takes to fix things with her, her family and friends and whoever saw the messages I wrote. I have been thinking about it all and I really miss her lots and can't stop thinking about her. I have been so miserable lately and I can't get her out of my head and can't wait to get her back. I have sent her flowers once as well. Yesterday was our second anniversary and it was especially hard. By the way, I am now living in London and she is finishing her studies in Paris. What I don't understand is how she can forget all that we shared over one incident? Yes it was ugly and not small but I really did not mean it and I lost it that day. I am now thinking to go and see her next weekend in Paris to talk since I can't get through to her. I know that she will probably still not want to talk to me but it is a risk I have to take cos she means the world to me! We have a common friend there and he will try to invite her over to their place and then I'll come over and hopefully we can talk. I am planning to send her flowers every day this week to soften her heart. She is a very stubborn person and not very forthcoming with her emotions and she can be really cold. I have done so much for her, stood by her last year when her mother passed away, when she was finding it tough at uni, always supported her, used to go to Paris to cheer her up and make her feel good. By the way I am 29 and she is 28. I want some genuine advice on what to do! I am completely lost and all I can think of is wanting her back. Yes, we have had out fights and bad moments but for me we have had so much more happier moments and it is those that are keeping me attached. Thanks to everyone for their advice. I admit it was very immature and I was so mad that day and completely out of control. I regret that extremely. Should I go and see her or just accept it is over even though I still love her and can't wait to get her back? should i go to Paris to see her and talk to her? She has never cheated on me and I know that there is no other guy.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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If she can say horrible and abusive things about your worth, you need to see a big red flag there. If you think that she does this as a defensive thing about being hurt - then tell her that's something you need her to work on if you both decide to give the relationship another go. Flowers do help - but if she's that stubborn and it's about how she's better than you and you're worth less... that may be something that is always there. You should never, NEVER be with someone who puts you down or doesn't feel lucky and appreciative to have you in their life. The Facebook thing was dumb, and immature. You're 29? Behave that way, as I was reading this I thought that I was reading something from a 15 y/o. Good Luck.
2 :
I had something similar happen to me a few years back and it turned out in the end that because we were so far apart for so long, she cheated on me a few times. After she cheated on me, suddenly she was a different person; tactless, aggressive, cold and heartless. In retrospect, I should have just dumped her and moved on. But love doesn't make thesse decisionas any easier. I ended up getting hurt badly, HATING her and losing a good chunk of my early twenties feeling depressed. If this girl is the love of your life, sit her down one day and talk to her face to face about everything. Lay it all out, no secrets, no regrets -- just talk to her as openly as possible. Ask her tough questions. Be firm. It will be a hard moment, maybe even ugly, but at least you'll have a clear picture of what's going on inside her head. Before you make up your mind, take a day or two to think about everything you talked about and try to view it as objectively as possible. After all, you're talking about engagement and marriage.. if you can't work out problems before getting married, if you eventually walk down that path your married life may be even harder. One more thing, if she's also your friend, then try to approach that angle. Use a bit of humor when you're talking to her. Be friendly. Don't be too serious or obsessive because that may frighten her off. There's also a chance she's just really nervous about the whole thing to begin with. Marriage is a pretty big deal. Either way man, best of luck to you.
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