How can I help my girlfriend become more independent?
I am 24 and my girlfriend is 22. We have been together for 3 years. I have moved from the UK to Spain to be with her. She is Spanish and I am English. I have been in Spain now for over a year. I have 2 businesses and work as an IT consultant remotely telecommuting. Although I don't make great money I have huge drive and focus on this in my life. I live with 3 other flat mates as otherwise I would be lonely in Spain and I enjoy saving the extra money. She has never lived with me and she lives with her parents. She calls her parents to ask the most basic of questions regularly. She does not have a full time job although has finished university. She is not actively looking for a full time job. Her parents treat us like kids not adults - I have to sleep in a separate bed when I come to stay in my girlfriends house and they talk to her like a child. Whenever I try to discuss serious points in our relationship e.g: traveling, finances, business, working abroad, moving in together, sex etc she gets: angry, bored, ignores me or she comes to kiss and cuddle me. She finds sex hurts - she lost her virginity to me but can't enjoy sex. She never masturbates alone or with me. She refuses to go to OBGYN or says she will but never does - she never has been. She is constantly tired and moans about stomach problems all the time. Whenever I talk to her about money she gets angry at people with money and refuses to even read about the basics of making money. Even basics in personal finance. She is unable to focus on what she wants from life and spends most of her days on her parents sofa watching TV, on Facebook and talking to her friends on instant messenger. I feel like I am putting so much into the relationship but her parents are holding her back. What can I do?
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1 :
sorry but it sounds like ur in a dead end relationship...id break it off. =[ answer mine? http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090105144402AARIJvO
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she is still a child even though shes 22 she hasnt grown up yet, you however fortunately have. this is most likely how she will be for the rest of your relationship, this is how she is, she isnt going to change anytime soon. is she worth it?
