does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
He moved over to london frim Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
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Thats really good that this guy tells you everything. I guess its a good sign that he is sincere to you. But im kinda confused of changing his status on Facebook. I guess the guy should really finish his business/relationship with his ex-gf. If the guy is being honest with you,he should do the same with his ex also.. If they still seeing with each other,i guess there's something also might happened with that .. I might say that dont give all your hopes and trust with this guy,coz i think this guy is not really sure what he wants/likes in life... Mybe this guy is kinda confuse to with his feelings to ex and to you..
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As you said , he has just moved to london and met you.But he has been wid his ex for 4 years.Am sorry to say dis but they might be just takin a break .He is new to london and jus wants someone who can help him familiarise so that he does not feel homesick.Mark my words if he goes home for christmas an meets his ex ,feelings will definetely gush in an he may fall for her again.and as its a small town , many people will know abt der breakup and will try to make things work out.it is very diff to break a 4 yr old relationship very easily.But you just have to give him some space and stop bugging him.if he does not want to change the status in facebook ,jus agree wid him...He is probably confused now and might feel guilty cuz he got a galfrnd so soon after breakin a 4 yr relationship.and he might nt have the strength to tell abt it to his ex.jus give him some time an make him happy.let him talk abt his ex to u.Listen carefully an try not to do things which his ex did to annoy him.he will tell u abt the things which make himhappy...try to do dose things.Make him feel that he has got a new life because of u.Al de best.Lead a happy life.Don worry Be happy
