Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
He moved over to london from Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
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1 :
Honestly he just wants a piece of ass on the side without his girl friend finding out. Holding doors and being a gentleman just means he really wants yours. I say tell him you just want to be friends then and see what he does. If he wants to be friends (meaning cutting off all chances of sleeping with you.) Then find someone else.
2 :
it your decision i would do it probably give him 2 month and see what happening if you dont like your relationship brake up if you like the realtionship then dont breakbup
3 :
yup you will always love ur ex
4 :
he has an asshole
5 :
I think there's no reason to be worried. You are write you are worried just because you have been hurt in the past. And if you are still unsure talk to him about what you are feeling. He said he likes to be honest with you so just open your heart to him. All the best.
6 :
wow ill be worried y because if he is the gentleman he is he wouldn't mind to let you put him on face book he still thinks about her i don't want you to think wrong but things like that happen he still feels something for her supposedly is the mortgage is not that is just he still feeling something for her
7 :
if you have to ask. he probably does.
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