Is this girl avoiding me?
My friend introduced me to a girl about 2 months ago on facebook, I'm from the UK she's from hong kong. I've got to know her quite rapidly, exchanging loads of messages everyday. After 2 weeks things died down a bit but would still keep in contact via the odd message and the msn chat. Most of the time it's always me initiating contact. Coincidentally I would be in hk for 2 months and we have been discussing activities we might do when I get over there. Now I'm over there I've only seen her briefly over lunch, what activities we were gonna do has not been mentioned. It's the 3rd week and arranged a dinner date but unfortunately she got ill so that got cancelled. There has not been once she has initiated a conversation with me at all since I've been here. Should I put more effort or maybe accept that maybes she's not interested at all. She has put me in a position where I question does she or doesn't she like me? Totally confused!! She does speak to me on MSN, there's no problem with that. Sometimes it's hot sometimes cold. I will be working in HK in the near future and she knows that. One thing I was puzzled about was she actually got her sister and female cousin to go on the lunch date. After that she sweetly found me a ticket to a sold out exhibition I wanted to go. Well she couldn't go due to work commitments so I went with her sister, cousin and mom, now how uncomfortable was that. Just proper confused, there's glimpses where she's interested and glimpses where she's not bothered.
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1 :
yep, she's avoiding you alright. sorry to break the news. i would forget about the whole thing. long-distance relationships rarely work out -- especially those that manifested through the internet. wait until she makes the next move -- if she ever does.
2 :
First of all, I definitely sympathize with you, it's annoying when you start talking so often and then nothing. I feel like you have been the one communicating the most and that gets extremely tiring after a while, since both people should equally communicate. It's her fault for making future plans and not following through with them. It might just be the fact that you two are long distance and she either can't handle it, is not interested in having long distance or might just see you as a friend. Through experience, the only way to know is to ask her. I know it might be a scary thought, but she is the only one with the answer. Don't plan what to say, just go ahead and say what is on your mind and ask her how she feels. You will feel much better, even though you might not get the answer you were looking for, at least you know. hope this helps :)
3 :
I think you should occasionally try and make contact with her. If she didn't want to talk to you then she would defiantly ignore you and you would get the vibe. She might just be shy, but if you really feel awkward and confused just ask her to go on a dinner date one more time. If she declines because she's sick or due to other circumstances then ask her to let you know when a better time would be. If her answer gives off the feeling where she doesn't want to then just forget about it. Dont worry theres plenty of people in Hong Kong. You can find a way to have fun. Im sure a lot of people would enjoy your company! Just keep your head up. YOUR THE MAN! ;)
