How do I get my phone back?
earlier this year I really went 'off the rails' I was drinking, sneaking out and just generally getting involved with the wrong crowd. Then about four months ago, my parents took my phone and computer and put all these rules down to make me behave. It's been four months and I've got my computer back, some of my freedom and a little respect. but still no phone. ----EXAMPLES---- [you dont need to read them all] It sucks and is just REALLY annoying. Like friday night I went to see a movie with my friends and during the night, my dad was texting all my friends to discuss how i was getting home [he cant drive atm] but i'd already arranged for someone to take me home. In the end [thanks to all his messing] three different people -including my mom- were all waiting outside to take me home. If my dad had just been able to call me, I could've told him I was being taken how by my friend, and I'd be back before 11. Or on saturday night, it was my friends birthday, so about 10 of us girls went out for pizza. then at the end everyone had gone home and her parents were waiting an extra 45mintues after everyone had left to make sure I wasn't there by myself. My mom had fallen asleep and the only reason she came is because I borrowed my friends phone and called her and was like "um, sorry mom but everyones gone - can you pick me up like now?" I literally don't talk to anyone outside school [my parents deleted my facebook] and its pretty hard for me to get invited out anywhere because whenever i ask why i wasn't invited its because "we couldnt contact you to ask you". The only time I talk to someone outside of school is if i call them. and thats pretty hard because all the numbers are on my phone. I've lost all my friends outside of school because I dont talk to them anymore. ---EXAMPLES--- I know I did wrong, but I really need my phone. And four months is a long time - I've learnt my lesson! Since I got caught, i dont hang out with anyone outside school. and i literally NEED my phone back. Summer is coming up [two weeks] adn my dad cant drive atm, so I'm gonna be taking rides with friends or using public transport a lot. I'm moving to victoria at the end of summer, so i intend on spending all summer at the beach with my friends. I'm even considering asking for my phone for my birthday [december 15th]. my dad said i can have my phone back january 1st. but im spending nearly the whole of january in london, so its not like i can use it anyway. Do you think if i tell my dad he can check my phone every night and check my bill? Thanks xx p.s. i'm 14...nearly 15.
Adolescent - 3 Answers
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I think that you should tell your dad that yes, you were wrong when you sneaked out and partied, but that honestly if he gave you back the phone then he would have more control over you. (Not exactly true but it does make a good point.) You should tell him these examples, but remember to also put in not just good things about getting back the phone, but show that you were wrong because honestly it will look a bit strange if having a phone is all 100% good. Say that he can check on you when he wants, see who you're with and be much safer in general and arrangements would be simpler. Good Luck!
2 :
You're not hanging out with friends who aren't from school, and you'll be in London soon anyway, so why do you need the phone? You're just addicted to it or you want to contact those people who got you in trouble again. Looks like your dad is hard core and won't relent until January 1st. Good for him!
3 :
You should tell them what you just wrote to us... And add that it will be a lot easier to comunicate w/ them and let them know where you are if you have a phone... :)
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Saturday, August 28, 2010
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Should I cut her out of my life or get revenge?
Should I cut her out of my life or get revenge?
well me and my "friend" applied for britain's got talent together almost a year ago (she goes to my old school) and we put down my address, i got both our letters saying we were accepted to audition in london on 21st of this month and i told her and i was really excited and i asked her when she was free to practise and she txt me saying "can i see the letter first because im not sure wether to beleive you or not" we had a huge fight and i told her if thats wat she thinks about me i'll do it on my own, and she said "if you put a picture of the letter on facebook i'll beleive you" so i did, and she apologised, but the next day (yesturday) she started sending me nasty texts saying "you had no right to open my letter you stupid cow!" and stuff like that, and demanding her letter because "she doesn't need me". I didn't reply, and i don't want to send her the letter because I know she'll try to audition solo and we only have one time slot between us, so we can't both audition solo, and I was encouraged by my singing teacher to audition, and i was willing to do it with her until she started acting like this. Well today she started posting crap on my facebook and I replied saying "you're so pathetc I actually pity you. Grow up and maybe when you're mature enough we can discuss this." before blocking her. Should I cut her out of my life completely, or get revenge?
Friends - 6 Answers
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Cut her out and dont give her the letter and go by yourself. Thats what I would do.
2 :
Try to work it out.
3 :
Cut her out of your life. She sounds like a selfish, hateful, pathetic b[tch.
4 :
well you only have one time slot between you so it will either be you or her. In this world we do to much worrying about other people and their feelings. I would go but i would mail her letter to her hoping that it gets delayed. yes cut her because if you happen to win she seems like the type of person that will drag you through the mud to make herself look like she was the reason you won. She doens't sound like a team player. get rid of her but don't seek revenge. be the better person, remember revenge is always a two way street. what you do today will double on its way back to you.
5 :
I would just completely ignore her. Block her and everything shes not a nice person. Try to pretend she never happened. ( Thats almost the best revenge to!!!)
6 :
I would just not talk to her. I think it was petty of her to attack you and call you a liar. If she was your friend she wouldn't have questioned you. I would just go by myself to the audition
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well me and my "friend" applied for britain's got talent together almost a year ago (she goes to my old school) and we put down my address, i got both our letters saying we were accepted to audition in london on 21st of this month and i told her and i was really excited and i asked her when she was free to practise and she txt me saying "can i see the letter first because im not sure wether to beleive you or not" we had a huge fight and i told her if thats wat she thinks about me i'll do it on my own, and she said "if you put a picture of the letter on facebook i'll beleive you" so i did, and she apologised, but the next day (yesturday) she started sending me nasty texts saying "you had no right to open my letter you stupid cow!" and stuff like that, and demanding her letter because "she doesn't need me". I didn't reply, and i don't want to send her the letter because I know she'll try to audition solo and we only have one time slot between us, so we can't both audition solo, and I was encouraged by my singing teacher to audition, and i was willing to do it with her until she started acting like this. Well today she started posting crap on my facebook and I replied saying "you're so pathetc I actually pity you. Grow up and maybe when you're mature enough we can discuss this." before blocking her. Should I cut her out of my life completely, or get revenge?
Friends - 6 Answers
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Cut her out and dont give her the letter and go by yourself. Thats what I would do.
2 :
Try to work it out.
3 :
Cut her out of your life. She sounds like a selfish, hateful, pathetic b[tch.
4 :
well you only have one time slot between you so it will either be you or her. In this world we do to much worrying about other people and their feelings. I would go but i would mail her letter to her hoping that it gets delayed. yes cut her because if you happen to win she seems like the type of person that will drag you through the mud to make herself look like she was the reason you won. She doens't sound like a team player. get rid of her but don't seek revenge. be the better person, remember revenge is always a two way street. what you do today will double on its way back to you.
5 :
I would just completely ignore her. Block her and everything shes not a nice person. Try to pretend she never happened. ( Thats almost the best revenge to!!!)
6 :
I would just not talk to her. I think it was petty of her to attack you and call you a liar. If she was your friend she wouldn't have questioned you. I would just go by myself to the audition
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Saturday, August 7, 2010
Please I need advice read below and give your opinion thanks!?
Please I need advice read below and give your opinion thanks!?
I left Nigeria 15 years ago and presently reside in London. Before leaving Lagos Nigeria I use to work in an office and I knew a lady colleague whom I use to tell all my problems and worries at that time as I use to chat too about my private life to her but I realized that she never use to tell me anything about herself which I believe is normal. I discussed this with my husband of recent and he told me that wherever you work you should never make friends in an office. I also realised to make friends with someone it takes several years to understand someone before they can become your friend as it is not because you meet someone of new and chat with them that they are your friends. I as an African noticed during my years in Nigeria people tend to chat with some people they do not know very well but later they drifat apart. As I am much older and wiser I study individuals and try not to chat too much with a person on the first day as I realised that it is not because you chat with them that they are nice people. Two weeks ago I received facebook email from my lady colleague of 15 years ago to whom I replied. I replied her via email and exchanged telephone numbers and email addresses but I was not very excited nor enthusiastic. At present I am not very enthusiastic about her nor am I keen on seeing her because it has been 15 years ago I saw her last. I would like to know is this normal. Oneday she telephone me as I politely told her not to phone me as it is expensive that we could communicate via email to which she agreed. As I know people in tropical countries like to chat too much on the phone. Last week I checked my voicemail and listened to her message as she wanted to know how I was doing. Several days later I returned her call and during our discussion I noticed she really did not have much to discuss with me as I was the one doing all the talking resulting to wasting my spare change. As I will be travelling to Lagos I will be forced to pay her a visit. I asked her if I could come to visit her in her office to which replied "yes". As I would be staying in a hotel I would like to know Should I invite her for lunch. I would not like to her ask her if I can come to her house unless she invites me as it her privacy. On meeting her should I talk less about myself? Should I watch her body language to know if she is feeling comfortable with me? She claims she is my friend but I know she is not a friend but a colleague. Tell me? Someone you have forgotten about after 15 years agos are they still your friend old acquaintances or platonic people.
Books & Authors - 3 Answers
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Hit it and quit it.
2 :
Maybe the people in the society/culture section will be able to answer your question better...
3 :
Many people in the spiritual community believe that we each are part of "soul groups" or "soul families" that we have spent many lives with, in varying roles. You are wise to be cautious about this situation... 15 years is a long time. I've known people who were separated at birth, adopted into different families and the re-met several years later as adults. The connection was there, even after the separation of years, but each had grown up in different environments so it was kind of like getting to know a brand new friend. You are much more intuitive than you give yourself credit for and it's important that you trust that. Meeting at her office is actually a great idea. You didn't mention if your trip was business or pleasure but if your initial meeting with her feels "off", trust that. I'm not saying to lie but perhaps you can ensure that your itinerary while there is full, with little time left over to do much but sleep. I sense that she really needs you and I think she is sincere is rekindling your friendship. I know, 15 years without a word is a long time. Hopefully, you parted on reasonably good terms. You had to have made a big impact if she is contacting you after such a long time and it is understandable that you would feel apprehensive. I have a feeling that she needs your strength and support. I'm not saying to disregard how you feel but perhaps consider that the Creator has arranged this for a purpose and could well be an opportunity to assist another soul on their journey. If you're having difficulty with resistance to seeing her, because she hasn't contacted you sooner, I will make a suggestion that has helped me. In your evening prayers, include a request to God for a special blessing on her. It sounds simple and stupid at the same time to some people but I have seen the results of doing this in my own life. I have seen people begin treating me very differently once I began to ask for a special blessing on them. It works for me and I wanted to suggest that you consider it as well. It essentially sets very positive energy in place and asks for a little help from God as well. Another consideration is that this may be an opportunity to establish a new type of friendship. Each of you have had many years apart, where you have gone through your own trials and lessons and you are not the same people as you were 15 years ago. If this is something that you want, pursue it. If your initial meeting feels "off" to you, go with that and don't pursue it. You are not obligated to carry the conversation so you may want to write some questions down about her beforehand to ask her. Sorry, I'm not much help here but I hope it provided some assistance, in some way.
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I left Nigeria 15 years ago and presently reside in London. Before leaving Lagos Nigeria I use to work in an office and I knew a lady colleague whom I use to tell all my problems and worries at that time as I use to chat too about my private life to her but I realized that she never use to tell me anything about herself which I believe is normal. I discussed this with my husband of recent and he told me that wherever you work you should never make friends in an office. I also realised to make friends with someone it takes several years to understand someone before they can become your friend as it is not because you meet someone of new and chat with them that they are your friends. I as an African noticed during my years in Nigeria people tend to chat with some people they do not know very well but later they drifat apart. As I am much older and wiser I study individuals and try not to chat too much with a person on the first day as I realised that it is not because you chat with them that they are nice people. Two weeks ago I received facebook email from my lady colleague of 15 years ago to whom I replied. I replied her via email and exchanged telephone numbers and email addresses but I was not very excited nor enthusiastic. At present I am not very enthusiastic about her nor am I keen on seeing her because it has been 15 years ago I saw her last. I would like to know is this normal. Oneday she telephone me as I politely told her not to phone me as it is expensive that we could communicate via email to which she agreed. As I know people in tropical countries like to chat too much on the phone. Last week I checked my voicemail and listened to her message as she wanted to know how I was doing. Several days later I returned her call and during our discussion I noticed she really did not have much to discuss with me as I was the one doing all the talking resulting to wasting my spare change. As I will be travelling to Lagos I will be forced to pay her a visit. I asked her if I could come to visit her in her office to which replied "yes". As I would be staying in a hotel I would like to know Should I invite her for lunch. I would not like to her ask her if I can come to her house unless she invites me as it her privacy. On meeting her should I talk less about myself? Should I watch her body language to know if she is feeling comfortable with me? She claims she is my friend but I know she is not a friend but a colleague. Tell me? Someone you have forgotten about after 15 years agos are they still your friend old acquaintances or platonic people.
Books & Authors - 3 Answers
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1 :
Hit it and quit it.
2 :
Maybe the people in the society/culture section will be able to answer your question better...
3 :
Many people in the spiritual community believe that we each are part of "soul groups" or "soul families" that we have spent many lives with, in varying roles. You are wise to be cautious about this situation... 15 years is a long time. I've known people who were separated at birth, adopted into different families and the re-met several years later as adults. The connection was there, even after the separation of years, but each had grown up in different environments so it was kind of like getting to know a brand new friend. You are much more intuitive than you give yourself credit for and it's important that you trust that. Meeting at her office is actually a great idea. You didn't mention if your trip was business or pleasure but if your initial meeting with her feels "off", trust that. I'm not saying to lie but perhaps you can ensure that your itinerary while there is full, with little time left over to do much but sleep. I sense that she really needs you and I think she is sincere is rekindling your friendship. I know, 15 years without a word is a long time. Hopefully, you parted on reasonably good terms. You had to have made a big impact if she is contacting you after such a long time and it is understandable that you would feel apprehensive. I have a feeling that she needs your strength and support. I'm not saying to disregard how you feel but perhaps consider that the Creator has arranged this for a purpose and could well be an opportunity to assist another soul on their journey. If you're having difficulty with resistance to seeing her, because she hasn't contacted you sooner, I will make a suggestion that has helped me. In your evening prayers, include a request to God for a special blessing on her. It sounds simple and stupid at the same time to some people but I have seen the results of doing this in my own life. I have seen people begin treating me very differently once I began to ask for a special blessing on them. It works for me and I wanted to suggest that you consider it as well. It essentially sets very positive energy in place and asks for a little help from God as well. Another consideration is that this may be an opportunity to establish a new type of friendship. Each of you have had many years apart, where you have gone through your own trials and lessons and you are not the same people as you were 15 years ago. If this is something that you want, pursue it. If your initial meeting feels "off" to you, go with that and don't pursue it. You are not obligated to carry the conversation so you may want to write some questions down about her beforehand to ask her. Sorry, I'm not much help here but I hope it provided some assistance, in some way.
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Sunday, August 1, 2010
Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
He moved over to london from Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
Friends - 7 Answers
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Honestly he just wants a piece of ass on the side without his girl friend finding out. Holding doors and being a gentleman just means he really wants yours. I say tell him you just want to be friends then and see what he does. If he wants to be friends (meaning cutting off all chances of sleeping with you.) Then find someone else.
2 :
it your decision i would do it probably give him 2 month and see what happening if you dont like your relationship brake up if you like the realtionship then dont breakbup
3 :
yup you will always love ur ex
4 :
he has an asshole
5 :
I think there's no reason to be worried. You are write you are worried just because you have been hurt in the past. And if you are still unsure talk to him about what you are feeling. He said he likes to be honest with you so just open your heart to him. All the best.
6 :
wow ill be worried y because if he is the gentleman he is he wouldn't mind to let you put him on face book he still thinks about her i don't want you to think wrong but things like that happen he still feels something for her supposedly is the mortgage is not that is just he still feeling something for her
7 :
if you have to ask. he probably does.
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He moved over to london from Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
Friends - 7 Answers
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Honestly he just wants a piece of ass on the side without his girl friend finding out. Holding doors and being a gentleman just means he really wants yours. I say tell him you just want to be friends then and see what he does. If he wants to be friends (meaning cutting off all chances of sleeping with you.) Then find someone else.
2 :
it your decision i would do it probably give him 2 month and see what happening if you dont like your relationship brake up if you like the realtionship then dont breakbup
3 :
yup you will always love ur ex
4 :
he has an asshole
5 :
I think there's no reason to be worried. You are write you are worried just because you have been hurt in the past. And if you are still unsure talk to him about what you are feeling. He said he likes to be honest with you so just open your heart to him. All the best.
6 :
wow ill be worried y because if he is the gentleman he is he wouldn't mind to let you put him on face book he still thinks about her i don't want you to think wrong but things like that happen he still feels something for her supposedly is the mortgage is not that is just he still feeling something for her
7 :
if you have to ask. he probably does.
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