My cousin is 13 and thinks she's 'in love' with an 18 year old boy she met online...?
My younger cousin uses a lot of gaming websites as well as MSN, Facebook, Bebo etc. She has no awareness in internet safety and will add and talk to anyone online. Recently she started talking to an 18 year old boy who says he lives in Devon (she lives in Northampton). As well as giving out her e-mail and adding him on Facebook, she regularly texts and phones him. She left her facebook account logged in on the computer one time and my sister and I saw that he had been messaging her about marriage and having a family. They discussed meeting up in about a years time when she thinks she is old enough...we know she is acting like an idiot and we thought she had more sense than that. However we are unsure who to tell as it could prompt her to meet up with him sooner, he kept mentioning how her family are just holding her back. He looks weird (we looked on his facebook page) but he looks like a genuine 18 year old with lots of pictures, friends etc. He looks obsessed with guns and thinks he's a rock star :L On the facebook messages he kept asking whether anyone knew about him. What should we do?? We know we should tell someone but we don't know who, she'd never forgive us if we told :(
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1 :
tell someone! otherwise she could get in big trouble. its easy for a paedo to make a fake account tell her parents and let them take it from there.
2 :
that is not love, it is a teenage rush and when the time comes she will know that she made a mistake and she has to correct it.
3 :
This is how young teenage girls end up dead or missing. This '18' is more likely then not, a sexual predator. Anyone can put a picture up on their FB to look like anyone they want, you cannot go by a picture, or what he says he likes. A little research on what kids are listening to these days, and you ve invented yourself an 18 yr. old. Where are her parents in all this internet freedom? If he is asking questions about if other people know about him, I would be instantly suspicious. TELL HER PARENTS, or go to the police, as this person is definitely not who he says he is. Even if he is, he is much too old for her and he could be arrested. Tell someone, I urge you before your cousin ends up missing or dead.
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Tell someone!!!
5 :
Mh 13 yrs still don't know much about world she thinks she is smart on this one if you love her pls tell her parents because that is love if you won't tell because of thinking she will be mad that's not love you need to tell to serve her
6 :
It's definitely not love. But I feel the best course of action would be to tell her parents, guardians, or whoever she lives with. Since she is only 13 she is obviously immature and doesn't know what she is doing. When she finds out you told someone, she will be upset, hurt, and mad. But in time she will get over it. And when she grows up she'll realize what a stupid mistake it was. Good luck. Please tell someone before it's too late.
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Your cousin is naive. She must have been unhappy with her looks and wondered why guys her age have not recognized her and liked her yet. She's happy someone likes her but it's desperate on her part to be happy over some guy online. A lot of guys online, fake identity or not, will tell a girl online things she wants a guy to say to her. I have a cousin who is 19. When she was in high school, she would just go home and then to school. She ended up meeting a guy from a chat room and the guy ended up moving into my aunt and uncle's house. My cousin lied to my cousins on my mom's side of the family about where she met the guy. My mom has been over at my aunt's house at times last year to look after my grandmother before she ended up moving back to the Philippines. My mom told me that my cousin's boyfriend never said, "Hi" to her. She told me that my cousin's boyfriend was so skinny and now he's really fat. He just freeloads off my aunt and uncle's fridge. He ended up impregnating my cousin and they now have a little girl. The guy does not want to work despite being a father now. My uncle came out of retirement to work again and my aunt always keeps losing a job. My cousin works and on welfare despite still living with my aunt and uncle. It's a sad situation. My aunt and uncle share the blame for not getting through to my cousin and not kicking the guy out of their house. The guy your cousin met is just brainwashing her. He doesn't want anyone who is friends or related to your cousin to know about him because he knows they will try to convince her to stop talking to him. She's only 13 so there's plenty of time for other guys to notice her that are not through chatting online. You have to tell your cousins folks or else she'll end up running away to be with that guy and something terrible can happen to her (pregnant, raped or killed). If you don't tell your cousin's folks then her folks will likely question her about getting texts and sending texts to a person she doesn't really know. If your cousin gets mad at you then she'll end up getting over it and forgiving you. It's good that deeply care about your cousin. I hope that this helps and take care of yourself. I mean it ~ Alan
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Tell the police! What hes doing is illegal. Hes grooming her and this could potentially be fatal. At 13 shes very vulnerable and needs to be monitored whilst on the internet
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