My cousin is 13 and thinks she's 'in love' with an 18 year old boy she met online...?
My younger cousin uses a lot of gaming websites as well as MSN, Facebook, Bebo etc. She has no awareness in internet safety and will add and talk to anyone online. Recently she started talking to an 18 year old boy who says he lives in Devon (she lives in Northampton). As well as giving out her e-mail and adding him on Facebook, she regularly texts and phones him. She left her facebook account logged in on the computer one time and my sister and I saw that he had been messaging her about marriage and having a family. They discussed meeting up in about a years time when she thinks she is old enough...we know she is acting like an idiot and we thought she had more sense than that. However we are unsure who to tell as it could prompt her to meet up with him sooner, he kept mentioning how her family are just holding her back. He looks weird (we looked on his facebook page) but he looks like a genuine 18 year old with lots of pictures, friends etc. He looks obsessed with guns and thinks he's a rock star :L On the facebook messages he kept asking whether anyone knew about him. What should we do?? We know we should tell someone but we don't know who, she'd never forgive us if we told :(
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tell someone! otherwise she could get in big trouble. its easy for a paedo to make a fake account tell her parents and let them take it from there.
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that is not love, it is a teenage rush and when the time comes she will know that she made a mistake and she has to correct it.
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This is how young teenage girls end up dead or missing. This '18' is more likely then not, a sexual predator. Anyone can put a picture up on their FB to look like anyone they want, you cannot go by a picture, or what he says he likes. A little research on what kids are listening to these days, and you ve invented yourself an 18 yr. old. Where are her parents in all this internet freedom? If he is asking questions about if other people know about him, I would be instantly suspicious. TELL HER PARENTS, or go to the police, as this person is definitely not who he says he is. Even if he is, he is much too old for her and he could be arrested. Tell someone, I urge you before your cousin ends up missing or dead.
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Tell someone!!!
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Mh 13 yrs still don't know much about world she thinks she is smart on this one if you love her pls tell her parents because that is love if you won't tell because of thinking she will be mad that's not love you need to tell to serve her
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It's definitely not love. But I feel the best course of action would be to tell her parents, guardians, or whoever she lives with. Since she is only 13 she is obviously immature and doesn't know what she is doing. When she finds out you told someone, she will be upset, hurt, and mad. But in time she will get over it. And when she grows up she'll realize what a stupid mistake it was. Good luck. Please tell someone before it's too late.
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Your cousin is naive. She must have been unhappy with her looks and wondered why guys her age have not recognized her and liked her yet. She's happy someone likes her but it's desperate on her part to be happy over some guy online. A lot of guys online, fake identity or not, will tell a girl online things she wants a guy to say to her. I have a cousin who is 19. When she was in high school, she would just go home and then to school. She ended up meeting a guy from a chat room and the guy ended up moving into my aunt and uncle's house. My cousin lied to my cousins on my mom's side of the family about where she met the guy. My mom has been over at my aunt's house at times last year to look after my grandmother before she ended up moving back to the Philippines. My mom told me that my cousin's boyfriend never said, "Hi" to her. She told me that my cousin's boyfriend was so skinny and now he's really fat. He just freeloads off my aunt and uncle's fridge. He ended up impregnating my cousin and they now have a little girl. The guy does not want to work despite being a father now. My uncle came out of retirement to work again and my aunt always keeps losing a job. My cousin works and on welfare despite still living with my aunt and uncle. It's a sad situation. My aunt and uncle share the blame for not getting through to my cousin and not kicking the guy out of their house. The guy your cousin met is just brainwashing her. He doesn't want anyone who is friends or related to your cousin to know about him because he knows they will try to convince her to stop talking to him. She's only 13 so there's plenty of time for other guys to notice her that are not through chatting online. You have to tell your cousins folks or else she'll end up running away to be with that guy and something terrible can happen to her (pregnant, raped or killed). If you don't tell your cousin's folks then her folks will likely question her about getting texts and sending texts to a person she doesn't really know. If your cousin gets mad at you then she'll end up getting over it and forgiving you. It's good that deeply care about your cousin. I hope that this helps and take care of yourself. I mean it ~ Alan
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Tell the police! What hes doing is illegal. Hes grooming her and this could potentially be fatal. At 13 shes very vulnerable and needs to be monitored whilst on the internet
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Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Would anyone be so kind to proofread my cover letter?
Would anyone be so kind to proofread my cover letter?
I don't usually ask anyone for help while writing a cover letter, but now it's kind of crucial for me. I would appreciate if anyone could have a look at it quickly and juts let me know about some mistakes or bad stylistics I could have made. Thanks a lot!!!! ******* Dear Andrew, as you probably know, I'm currently working as a Community Manager at Facebook. I love the company, but however great experience it has been, I‘ve been starting to look around for a new opportunity besides. We have been paid peanuts for half a year and we don’t have good prospects unfortunately, as the strategy for our Birmingham team is „internships only“. I am applying for the grad position posted on your website. At your convenience, I'd appreciate the opportunity to discuss the position and my candidacy with you. You can find my CV attached to this e-mail or online at: xxxx My extensive experience for the past 8 year gives me a unique ability to excel in various fields across marketing, advertising and sales. Before joining Facebook, I worked as a Campaign Manager at Citibank, Product & Project Manager in HSBC, Project & Telesales Manager in a multinational IT company and Account Director & Partner in an innovative digital ad agency. I have an account handling experience, thorough analytical and planning skills and I benefit from international experience combined with interest in world economies and linguistry. I enjoy fast-paced environment, I am self-motivated do-er with solid work ethic and I take an entrepreneurial approach to anything I do. I’ve been watching Saatchi’s work, team and company’s spirit since we’ve joined your office and I believe I would be an ideal match for this position. I'd love to find out more about the position you're looking to fill, and I would welcome the opportunity to tell you how my skills and ideas can benefit Saatchi. Thanks for your consideration, I look forward to hearing from you soon! Best regards, Jan Thank you so much! I really appreciate your help
Words & Wordplay - 2 Answers
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I think it sounds good, but is too long. I would take out the paragraphs about yourself. That is not what a cover letter is meant for. They are supposed to be super short and to the point. I work in Human Resources and a lot of the managers do not even look at applications that are very long and "flowery."
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>> as you probably know, I'm currently working as a Community >> Manager at Facebook. This is extraneous. Delete it. >> I love the company, Rewrite :I love my position as a community Manager at Facebook >> but however great experience it has been, I‘ve been starting to >> look around for a new opportunity besides. Rewrite: but am now look for other opportunies to advance my career. >> We have been paid peanuts for half a year and we don’t >> have good prospects unfortunately, as the strategy for >> our Birmingham team is „internships only“. Stop complaining. Really. Not in a cover letter. >> I’ve been watching Saatchi’s work, team and >> company’s spirit I'm not sure about this phrase. >> since we’ve joined your office and I believe Unclear, perhaps it would be clear to the reader. >> I would be an ideal match for this position. Good I believe this sentence could be made better by a pro. >> I'd love to find out more about the position How can you be an ideal match if you don't know all the details? You have a good start. Hopefully other people will have more ideas and you can have the stellar letter you deserve.
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I don't usually ask anyone for help while writing a cover letter, but now it's kind of crucial for me. I would appreciate if anyone could have a look at it quickly and juts let me know about some mistakes or bad stylistics I could have made. Thanks a lot!!!! ******* Dear Andrew, as you probably know, I'm currently working as a Community Manager at Facebook. I love the company, but however great experience it has been, I‘ve been starting to look around for a new opportunity besides. We have been paid peanuts for half a year and we don’t have good prospects unfortunately, as the strategy for our Birmingham team is „internships only“. I am applying for the grad position posted on your website. At your convenience, I'd appreciate the opportunity to discuss the position and my candidacy with you. You can find my CV attached to this e-mail or online at: xxxx My extensive experience for the past 8 year gives me a unique ability to excel in various fields across marketing, advertising and sales. Before joining Facebook, I worked as a Campaign Manager at Citibank, Product & Project Manager in HSBC, Project & Telesales Manager in a multinational IT company and Account Director & Partner in an innovative digital ad agency. I have an account handling experience, thorough analytical and planning skills and I benefit from international experience combined with interest in world economies and linguistry. I enjoy fast-paced environment, I am self-motivated do-er with solid work ethic and I take an entrepreneurial approach to anything I do. I’ve been watching Saatchi’s work, team and company’s spirit since we’ve joined your office and I believe I would be an ideal match for this position. I'd love to find out more about the position you're looking to fill, and I would welcome the opportunity to tell you how my skills and ideas can benefit Saatchi. Thanks for your consideration, I look forward to hearing from you soon! Best regards, Jan Thank you so much! I really appreciate your help
Words & Wordplay - 2 Answers
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I think it sounds good, but is too long. I would take out the paragraphs about yourself. That is not what a cover letter is meant for. They are supposed to be super short and to the point. I work in Human Resources and a lot of the managers do not even look at applications that are very long and "flowery."
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>> as you probably know, I'm currently working as a Community >> Manager at Facebook. This is extraneous. Delete it. >> I love the company, Rewrite :I love my position as a community Manager at Facebook >> but however great experience it has been, I‘ve been starting to >> look around for a new opportunity besides. Rewrite: but am now look for other opportunies to advance my career. >> We have been paid peanuts for half a year and we don’t >> have good prospects unfortunately, as the strategy for >> our Birmingham team is „internships only“. Stop complaining. Really. Not in a cover letter. >> I’ve been watching Saatchi’s work, team and >> company’s spirit I'm not sure about this phrase. >> since we’ve joined your office and I believe Unclear, perhaps it would be clear to the reader. >> I would be an ideal match for this position. Good I believe this sentence could be made better by a pro. >> I'd love to find out more about the position How can you be an ideal match if you don't know all the details? You have a good start. Hopefully other people will have more ideas and you can have the stellar letter you deserve.
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Sunday, November 28, 2010
Best friend kissed me in truth or dare?
Best friend kissed me in truth or dare?
I'm 16 and my best friend Jessica is 15. We've known each other for about 5 years now. Imagine her as a British, Kingdom Hearts fanatic, blonde, blue eyes, average size girl. If you wanna know how we met, read this: 5 years ago, she was living in England. Cause of the ridiculous rape crimes that happened in her neighborhood, her family had to move out of there and move in my neighborhood in Staten Island, NY.While they were unloading their things into their new home, me and my parents went over to greet them. (My sister was busy watching tv like she is today and my little brother was sleeping) We helped them with the unloading and that's when I said Jessica. She was absolutely cute, but she never seem interested in being friends with me. By the time we got to middle school, things changed. It was her first day of middle school and already she is getting teased on by her fellow classmates. The guys said how our school is not a Catholic school since she was wearing a uniform (and I found it to be very hot) and the girls saying guys will never do a girl with big boobs (Her's would be like the size of Jessica Simpson's) Back then, almost all the girls' chests were flat and she was the only few who has it big. Maybe they were jealous. So they continued to tease around until I stepped in and did something. I discussed it with the assistant principal about it. (he's my dad's friend) And the next day, he suspended the selected who teased at her. I told Jess how I got those awful kids out of the school for awhile. She was so happy in tears that she hugged me and said if we can be best friends forever. I said sure and that's how we became just that. As the years went by, we hang out a lot, play a lot of video games on my PS3 (even though I literally let her win) and even chat on Facebook a lot. :) So here's the problem: A couple days ago before I start asking it here at Yahoo! Answers, my best friend was invited to a birthday party with all her other friends. She was so excited, but also scared. She had never been to anyone's birthday party before and she was worried about all the strangers she doesn't know, so she asked me if I have time to come with her to her friend's birthday party. I said yes cause I pretty much had nothing else to do. So when it was her friend's birthday, we were at her house. Her friend opened the door and sure enough, her house was full of girls. I felt very uncomfortable about being around a bunch of them (some of them happened to be very, very hot) and not a single guy but me, so I told Jess that I was leaving. She cried out to me not to go and she hugged me by the arm. I felt really bad about leaving her alone, so I took the risk and stayed with her throughout the party. It was exciting and fun until we played truth or dare. I happened to think that truth or dare were for kids, but since everyone was playing, I'd go in a play with them. It was the birthday girl's turn and she told Jessica "Truth or dare". Jessica said dare and the birthday girl and the two girls next to her started whispering to each other. When they were done, she said, " I triple dog dare you to kiss your best friend. Lip TO lip". Everyone was giggling and oood, but I gasped. Jess' face was all red and her bangs was covering her eyes. I bet she frighten to do it, but it was a triple dog dare. She started crawling up to me very slowly in a sexy way, I guess. By the time she was close enough to me, she said,"Please forgive me for this". Jess wrapped her arms around my neck, looked me in the eyes as if she was trying to tell me that we were made for each other, and then kissed me. It wasn't a lip to lip kiss, it felt more like tongue kissing. I was surprised, but it felt so right to kiss her. It lasted for a couple of seconds and everyone around us were going awww. After the birthday party ended, we went walking home together. We still continue to see each other, sit each other on the bus to school, but we never seem talk or look at each other now. But worse, it became the hot topic at school. I want to tell her how I feel and that I want it more than a friendship, but I'm not that kind of guy that throws himself and just say it to a girl. Any ideas? If not, do I just go with my plan and throw myself.
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we girls like guys who talk to us directly how u feel about us.. well if u never talk abt it, we dont know it, then dont blame us.. she's embarrassed.. yes.. because u guys arent in any relationship.. and she thinks ure just a best friend.. anyways.. go find out.. tell her how u feel.. if for any reason she doesnt like u back, and she break the friendship, let it go.. coz ure not made for each other.. even for best friends.. so dont force it.. dont regret it coz u tried.. and u are being a man by telling her how u feel instead of hiding it.. telling her how u feel about her is NOT throwing urself to a random girl.. she's not a nobody.. u like her, its ok to confess.. shows ure not a pussy.. lol.. just sayin..
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I'm 16 and my best friend Jessica is 15. We've known each other for about 5 years now. Imagine her as a British, Kingdom Hearts fanatic, blonde, blue eyes, average size girl. If you wanna know how we met, read this: 5 years ago, she was living in England. Cause of the ridiculous rape crimes that happened in her neighborhood, her family had to move out of there and move in my neighborhood in Staten Island, NY.While they were unloading their things into their new home, me and my parents went over to greet them. (My sister was busy watching tv like she is today and my little brother was sleeping) We helped them with the unloading and that's when I said Jessica. She was absolutely cute, but she never seem interested in being friends with me. By the time we got to middle school, things changed. It was her first day of middle school and already she is getting teased on by her fellow classmates. The guys said how our school is not a Catholic school since she was wearing a uniform (and I found it to be very hot) and the girls saying guys will never do a girl with big boobs (Her's would be like the size of Jessica Simpson's) Back then, almost all the girls' chests were flat and she was the only few who has it big. Maybe they were jealous. So they continued to tease around until I stepped in and did something. I discussed it with the assistant principal about it. (he's my dad's friend) And the next day, he suspended the selected who teased at her. I told Jess how I got those awful kids out of the school for awhile. She was so happy in tears that she hugged me and said if we can be best friends forever. I said sure and that's how we became just that. As the years went by, we hang out a lot, play a lot of video games on my PS3 (even though I literally let her win) and even chat on Facebook a lot. :) So here's the problem: A couple days ago before I start asking it here at Yahoo! Answers, my best friend was invited to a birthday party with all her other friends. She was so excited, but also scared. She had never been to anyone's birthday party before and she was worried about all the strangers she doesn't know, so she asked me if I have time to come with her to her friend's birthday party. I said yes cause I pretty much had nothing else to do. So when it was her friend's birthday, we were at her house. Her friend opened the door and sure enough, her house was full of girls. I felt very uncomfortable about being around a bunch of them (some of them happened to be very, very hot) and not a single guy but me, so I told Jess that I was leaving. She cried out to me not to go and she hugged me by the arm. I felt really bad about leaving her alone, so I took the risk and stayed with her throughout the party. It was exciting and fun until we played truth or dare. I happened to think that truth or dare were for kids, but since everyone was playing, I'd go in a play with them. It was the birthday girl's turn and she told Jessica "Truth or dare". Jessica said dare and the birthday girl and the two girls next to her started whispering to each other. When they were done, she said, " I triple dog dare you to kiss your best friend. Lip TO lip". Everyone was giggling and oood, but I gasped. Jess' face was all red and her bangs was covering her eyes. I bet she frighten to do it, but it was a triple dog dare. She started crawling up to me very slowly in a sexy way, I guess. By the time she was close enough to me, she said,"Please forgive me for this". Jess wrapped her arms around my neck, looked me in the eyes as if she was trying to tell me that we were made for each other, and then kissed me. It wasn't a lip to lip kiss, it felt more like tongue kissing. I was surprised, but it felt so right to kiss her. It lasted for a couple of seconds and everyone around us were going awww. After the birthday party ended, we went walking home together. We still continue to see each other, sit each other on the bus to school, but we never seem talk or look at each other now. But worse, it became the hot topic at school. I want to tell her how I feel and that I want it more than a friendship, but I'm not that kind of guy that throws himself and just say it to a girl. Any ideas? If not, do I just go with my plan and throw myself.
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we girls like guys who talk to us directly how u feel about us.. well if u never talk abt it, we dont know it, then dont blame us.. she's embarrassed.. yes.. because u guys arent in any relationship.. and she thinks ure just a best friend.. anyways.. go find out.. tell her how u feel.. if for any reason she doesnt like u back, and she break the friendship, let it go.. coz ure not made for each other.. even for best friends.. so dont force it.. dont regret it coz u tried.. and u are being a man by telling her how u feel instead of hiding it.. telling her how u feel about her is NOT throwing urself to a random girl.. she's not a nobody.. u like her, its ok to confess.. shows ure not a pussy.. lol.. just sayin..
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Sunday, November 14, 2010
Where do you draw the line with boyfriends and their ex girlfriends?
Where do you draw the line with boyfriends and their ex girlfriends?
My boyfriend and I have been together 6 months, however in the last month he's started talking to his ex again. She lives in florida (we're in england) so I know it could be worse, but he talks a lot, always signed on msn to talk to her, facebook messages, the lot. We've discussed our future many times, and everything was going amazing until she came along and at times he says he isn't talking to her when I know he is and he refuses to talk about the issue as he says i don't trust him if I have to ask because he loves me with all his heart. But, I can't help but have my doubts. Even without face to face contact you still have the emotional involvement, what should i do?
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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You have 2 choices: 1. Realize he's there (with you) and she's in Florida, thousands of miles away. She's no threat to you.... she's a f--king internet image. Go to the mature corner of your mind, and realize he's a doofus, but he's YOUR doofus; and the bimbo in Florida can't hurt you. 2. Dump his @$$. TAKE YOUR PICK!!!!
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If that situation makes you uncomfortable then you should ask him to lessen the amount of time he spends talking to her. If he can't do that for you, then maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship. He should be fine with not talking to her as much to make you happy. I don't think it has anything to do with trust, honestly. He'd unconsciously do the same thing (get a little jealous), so just talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. He should respect your wishes.
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My boyfriend and I have been together 6 months, however in the last month he's started talking to his ex again. She lives in florida (we're in england) so I know it could be worse, but he talks a lot, always signed on msn to talk to her, facebook messages, the lot. We've discussed our future many times, and everything was going amazing until she came along and at times he says he isn't talking to her when I know he is and he refuses to talk about the issue as he says i don't trust him if I have to ask because he loves me with all his heart. But, I can't help but have my doubts. Even without face to face contact you still have the emotional involvement, what should i do?
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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You have 2 choices: 1. Realize he's there (with you) and she's in Florida, thousands of miles away. She's no threat to you.... she's a f--king internet image. Go to the mature corner of your mind, and realize he's a doofus, but he's YOUR doofus; and the bimbo in Florida can't hurt you. 2. Dump his @$$. TAKE YOUR PICK!!!!
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If that situation makes you uncomfortable then you should ask him to lessen the amount of time he spends talking to her. If he can't do that for you, then maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship. He should be fine with not talking to her as much to make you happy. I don't think it has anything to do with trust, honestly. He'd unconsciously do the same thing (get a little jealous), so just talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. He should respect your wishes.
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Sunday, November 7, 2010
is he in it for the long run?
is he in it for the long run?
I know he loves me, he does everything to show it, he really is amazing, but at times when we discuss our plans (we live together) he says I cant wait to o to england and always makes his plans. I commented on it and now he always includes me and corrects himself if he leaves "us" out of something big. But He left his facebook up and i noticed that he commented his bestfriend who is female, and said that he is tihnking about moving to new south wales. He knows i dont want to move there and we have discussed this. ?? he then goes to far somtimes saying he cant wait to have children, and get engaged and things?? is he just saying those things to try convince me that he is sticking around ??
Other - Family & Relationships - 2 Answers
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It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. Many young guys are like this. They tend to live in the present and not think about the future so much.
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may be he is just only saying because there are no conditions in love .he is just only saying and nothing else.Do not attract towards his personality be realistic.Be clear in your derision.
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I know he loves me, he does everything to show it, he really is amazing, but at times when we discuss our plans (we live together) he says I cant wait to o to england and always makes his plans. I commented on it and now he always includes me and corrects himself if he leaves "us" out of something big. But He left his facebook up and i noticed that he commented his bestfriend who is female, and said that he is tihnking about moving to new south wales. He knows i dont want to move there and we have discussed this. ?? he then goes to far somtimes saying he cant wait to have children, and get engaged and things?? is he just saying those things to try convince me that he is sticking around ??
Other - Family & Relationships - 2 Answers
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It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. Many young guys are like this. They tend to live in the present and not think about the future so much.
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may be he is just only saying because there are no conditions in love .he is just only saying and nothing else.Do not attract towards his personality be realistic.Be clear in your derision.
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Monday, November 1, 2010
I dont know whether to stop seeing this guy i am with and i have 12 hours to decide.?
I dont know whether to stop seeing this guy i am with and i have 12 hours to decide.?
Bit about me first, I am a gay 16 year old who lives in northumberland, england. At the begining of december i added the friend of a friedn on facebook. His friend had told me that he was gay, just like me. We got talking loads and really headed off. We met up a few times and kissed and all that. We are gradually getting more and more smitten with each other. I am so happy i found him because i got seriously hurt and lied to by my first love back in september. I am falling for this guy alot. There is only one problem. He has only come out to a few of his friends and thats the way it has been for a long time. He basicly told me he hates been gay but knew that if he came out to everyone and to his parents it would all be fine but he is too afraid to. I rang him last night and said that i reeli liked him but i felt i'd hit a brick wall and didnt think that we couldnt take things further unless he was secure enough to come out. He said i was right but he was really upset so he is going to ring me tonight to discuss it properly. I need help, what do you think i should do/say?
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i'm a bisexual 17 year old boy... i've barely come out, he shouldn't have to tell his parents family, friends whatever. just keep it going until its absolutely neccessary and crucial. i don't have the strength to tell my parents, i doubt i ever will. good luck. i wish i was in your situation with a boy im quite lonely atm (: actually.. if you can help me that'd be good. seankelleher_93@live.co.uk
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he is still young . you need to give him time to come out when he is ready.
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He shouldn't be pressured into coming out if it could potentially cause arguments and put him in a bad position. If that doesn't apply to him though, and he's just not confident enough then I think he should still do it in his own time. At the same time, if you feel he has to do it at the sake of your relationship, tell him that and let him decides what he wants to do. You should also take it into consideration that at the end of the day it isn't really anyone's business who you're both going out with. Telling his parents/peers could result in them interfering.
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I'm 15 years old and bi. I doubt I could tell my parents I'm bi unless I fall in love with a girl and decide she's the only one for me. However I might end up with a guy so why put them through that plus they they don't accept me already and it doesn't matter anymore. I'm going to be me. I'm not ready to come out and he isn't either. Please don't pressure him it's not fair. Let him come out when he's ready.
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Don't pressure him. Let him work this one out in his own time. Just stick by him and be supporting. He will trust u more this way.
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Hi, It's not always so easy for people to come out and accept themselves as gay due to (insert a million things here). Everyone has a different experience when coming out and, while it may have been easy for you, it may not be easy for him. Each person has to come to terms with their sexuality in their own way. It can't be rushed and we can't (or shouldn't) do it for them. I wouldn't dump the relationship just because he's afraid to come out. You may be the very epitome of sexuality for him and this may be the very thing to help him adjust. So, don't give up on him, especially if you think he's the deal. Just do your best to help him by loving him. That may be all he needs. When he realizes how settled you are and how happy you are with yourself, he may be able to grow to the point where it's the same for him. Give him a bit of patience and if, after a while, he still is unable to bring himself out, then you can make that decision then. Show him love, don't give him speeches unless he asks and be patient. You'll gain your rewards soon enough. Happy New Year and I hope it all goes well for you, Bret
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Okay! this is the kind of question I'm really good at! lol. so I'm also 16... and gay. it may be a tad different, because I'm from the u.s. but w.e so when he calls tonight, you need to come out and tell him straight up, as much as it may scare you, that you're falling for him, but you think he has to be brave enough to come out. and then, if you really do care for him like you say you do, you'll tell him that, and you'll remind him like 50 times that you'll be there for him through everything, the good and the bad. it's a big step to come out, as you may remember. but it's so much easier with somebody who cares about you leading the way. and you can tell him that his friends that he's come out to already will be there for him too. p.s. i'd love a pen pal from the u.k. i love the accents. haha. hit me up via e-mail :-D
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Just tell him that you love him. If you love him like you say you do, then that shouldn't be a problem. I think if you date him you will be able to help him out through the process
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I'm a lot older than you, and I'm bi, but I was in this situation myself several times during my late teens / early 20's. I don't think that this sounds the right time to come out. I never did, because in my case, the relationship that lasted was with a girl, so the question of coming out was resolved. I doubt if he thinks his parents will accept his sexuality, otherwise he'd have told them already. In this case, he shouldn't tell them until he's in a position to support himself, or has somewhere else to move to. It's not unknown for parents to throw their own children out of the house, or at least make it uncomfortable for them to stay, once they come out. In the meantime, you should support him, and be his friend, you know what he's going through at home, and you can be there for him. I hope I'm not too late with this, and I hope it works out for you both. Take care.
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Bit about me first, I am a gay 16 year old who lives in northumberland, england. At the begining of december i added the friend of a friedn on facebook. His friend had told me that he was gay, just like me. We got talking loads and really headed off. We met up a few times and kissed and all that. We are gradually getting more and more smitten with each other. I am so happy i found him because i got seriously hurt and lied to by my first love back in september. I am falling for this guy alot. There is only one problem. He has only come out to a few of his friends and thats the way it has been for a long time. He basicly told me he hates been gay but knew that if he came out to everyone and to his parents it would all be fine but he is too afraid to. I rang him last night and said that i reeli liked him but i felt i'd hit a brick wall and didnt think that we couldnt take things further unless he was secure enough to come out. He said i was right but he was really upset so he is going to ring me tonight to discuss it properly. I need help, what do you think i should do/say?
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 9 Answers
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i'm a bisexual 17 year old boy... i've barely come out, he shouldn't have to tell his parents family, friends whatever. just keep it going until its absolutely neccessary and crucial. i don't have the strength to tell my parents, i doubt i ever will. good luck. i wish i was in your situation with a boy im quite lonely atm (: actually.. if you can help me that'd be good. seankelleher_93@live.co.uk
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he is still young . you need to give him time to come out when he is ready.
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He shouldn't be pressured into coming out if it could potentially cause arguments and put him in a bad position. If that doesn't apply to him though, and he's just not confident enough then I think he should still do it in his own time. At the same time, if you feel he has to do it at the sake of your relationship, tell him that and let him decides what he wants to do. You should also take it into consideration that at the end of the day it isn't really anyone's business who you're both going out with. Telling his parents/peers could result in them interfering.
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I'm 15 years old and bi. I doubt I could tell my parents I'm bi unless I fall in love with a girl and decide she's the only one for me. However I might end up with a guy so why put them through that plus they they don't accept me already and it doesn't matter anymore. I'm going to be me. I'm not ready to come out and he isn't either. Please don't pressure him it's not fair. Let him come out when he's ready.
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Don't pressure him. Let him work this one out in his own time. Just stick by him and be supporting. He will trust u more this way.
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Hi, It's not always so easy for people to come out and accept themselves as gay due to (insert a million things here). Everyone has a different experience when coming out and, while it may have been easy for you, it may not be easy for him. Each person has to come to terms with their sexuality in their own way. It can't be rushed and we can't (or shouldn't) do it for them. I wouldn't dump the relationship just because he's afraid to come out. You may be the very epitome of sexuality for him and this may be the very thing to help him adjust. So, don't give up on him, especially if you think he's the deal. Just do your best to help him by loving him. That may be all he needs. When he realizes how settled you are and how happy you are with yourself, he may be able to grow to the point where it's the same for him. Give him a bit of patience and if, after a while, he still is unable to bring himself out, then you can make that decision then. Show him love, don't give him speeches unless he asks and be patient. You'll gain your rewards soon enough. Happy New Year and I hope it all goes well for you, Bret
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Okay! this is the kind of question I'm really good at! lol. so I'm also 16... and gay. it may be a tad different, because I'm from the u.s. but w.e so when he calls tonight, you need to come out and tell him straight up, as much as it may scare you, that you're falling for him, but you think he has to be brave enough to come out. and then, if you really do care for him like you say you do, you'll tell him that, and you'll remind him like 50 times that you'll be there for him through everything, the good and the bad. it's a big step to come out, as you may remember. but it's so much easier with somebody who cares about you leading the way. and you can tell him that his friends that he's come out to already will be there for him too. p.s. i'd love a pen pal from the u.k. i love the accents. haha. hit me up via e-mail :-D
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Just tell him that you love him. If you love him like you say you do, then that shouldn't be a problem. I think if you date him you will be able to help him out through the process
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I'm a lot older than you, and I'm bi, but I was in this situation myself several times during my late teens / early 20's. I don't think that this sounds the right time to come out. I never did, because in my case, the relationship that lasted was with a girl, so the question of coming out was resolved. I doubt if he thinks his parents will accept his sexuality, otherwise he'd have told them already. In this case, he shouldn't tell them until he's in a position to support himself, or has somewhere else to move to. It's not unknown for parents to throw their own children out of the house, or at least make it uncomfortable for them to stay, once they come out. In the meantime, you should support him, and be his friend, you know what he's going through at home, and you can be there for him. I hope I'm not too late with this, and I hope it works out for you both. Take care.
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Thursday, October 28, 2010
facebook poke, what do i do?
facebook poke, what do i do?
I just received a 'poke' on facebook, not just from anyone, but from an ex-girlfriend I went to college with. We dated the 1st half of 2009 and through the summer, at which point she broke it off because she felt that she didn't have the same type of feelings for me as I did for her. I was pretty upset about it for a while because it was my first serious relationship. Anyway, after we returned to campus in the Fall, I made some half-hearted attempts to get back with her by suggesting we hang out (mostly it was in my head hoping she would conclude she made a mistake, but that never happened), and it eventually turned into sporadic coffee dates to update our lives to each other. In the start of 2010, I met and got together with a new girl from my classes and while we've never officially defined anything, we have been spending time together ever since. I have not spoken to my ex, other than a couple short conversations online, in close to a year. I am studying abroad this term in Germany, and she is in England this term. We have not discussed trying to meet up. Her birthday was 3 days ago, I did not write 'happy birthday' on her facebook wall as I do not usually for anyone outside of my best friends. Considering we have not spoken in so long, I'm not sure what to interpret from the speechless communication of a facebook poke. Why a poke? Why not a facebook wall post 'hey, how have you been?' or an email or a message? Do I poke back? Do I ignore? Do I message back? Please help!
Other - Family & Relationships - 6 Answers
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give her a poke with your meat stick!
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OMG it is just a poke. Poke her back, then hey whatever. Talk, or don't. You are totally overthinking.
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sounds like she is trying to get your attention so i would talk to her see whats going on and you know have a good chat. hopes this helps
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Just poke her back. A poke doesn't mean anything.
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A poke is a sweet little thing. Its a way of saying "hey" without having to. That is all. It could be flirtacious. Seems like you have some unfinished business with her, but don't pursue it right now, as you are seeing someone else. Poke back and keep poking if she responds. Its cute, but if you don't want to be "cute" with her, then just X the poke.
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She probably poked you because you didn't wish her a happy birthday-lol...I wouldn't sweat it...don't poke back...
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I just received a 'poke' on facebook, not just from anyone, but from an ex-girlfriend I went to college with. We dated the 1st half of 2009 and through the summer, at which point she broke it off because she felt that she didn't have the same type of feelings for me as I did for her. I was pretty upset about it for a while because it was my first serious relationship. Anyway, after we returned to campus in the Fall, I made some half-hearted attempts to get back with her by suggesting we hang out (mostly it was in my head hoping she would conclude she made a mistake, but that never happened), and it eventually turned into sporadic coffee dates to update our lives to each other. In the start of 2010, I met and got together with a new girl from my classes and while we've never officially defined anything, we have been spending time together ever since. I have not spoken to my ex, other than a couple short conversations online, in close to a year. I am studying abroad this term in Germany, and she is in England this term. We have not discussed trying to meet up. Her birthday was 3 days ago, I did not write 'happy birthday' on her facebook wall as I do not usually for anyone outside of my best friends. Considering we have not spoken in so long, I'm not sure what to interpret from the speechless communication of a facebook poke. Why a poke? Why not a facebook wall post 'hey, how have you been?' or an email or a message? Do I poke back? Do I ignore? Do I message back? Please help!
Other - Family & Relationships - 6 Answers
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give her a poke with your meat stick!
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OMG it is just a poke. Poke her back, then hey whatever. Talk, or don't. You are totally overthinking.
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sounds like she is trying to get your attention so i would talk to her see whats going on and you know have a good chat. hopes this helps
4 :
Just poke her back. A poke doesn't mean anything.
5 :
A poke is a sweet little thing. Its a way of saying "hey" without having to. That is all. It could be flirtacious. Seems like you have some unfinished business with her, but don't pursue it right now, as you are seeing someone else. Poke back and keep poking if she responds. Its cute, but if you don't want to be "cute" with her, then just X the poke.
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She probably poked you because you didn't wish her a happy birthday-lol...I wouldn't sweat it...don't poke back...
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