My cousin is 13 and thinks she's 'in love' with an 18 year old boy she met online...?
My younger cousin uses a lot of gaming websites as well as MSN, Facebook, Bebo etc. She has no awareness in internet safety and will add and talk to anyone online. Recently she started talking to an 18 year old boy who says he lives in Devon (she lives in Northampton). As well as giving out her e-mail and adding him on Facebook, she regularly texts and phones him. She left her facebook account logged in on the computer one time and my sister and I saw that he had been messaging her about marriage and having a family. They discussed meeting up in about a years time when she thinks she is old enough...we know she is acting like an idiot and we thought she had more sense than that. However we are unsure who to tell as it could prompt her to meet up with him sooner, he kept mentioning how her family are just holding her back. He looks weird (we looked on his facebook page) but he looks like a genuine 18 year old with lots of pictures, friends etc. He looks obsessed with guns and thinks he's a rock star :L On the facebook messages he kept asking whether anyone knew about him. What should we do?? We know we should tell someone but we don't know who, she'd never forgive us if we told :(
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tell someone! otherwise she could get in big trouble. its easy for a paedo to make a fake account tell her parents and let them take it from there.
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that is not love, it is a teenage rush and when the time comes she will know that she made a mistake and she has to correct it.
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This is how young teenage girls end up dead or missing. This '18' is more likely then not, a sexual predator. Anyone can put a picture up on their FB to look like anyone they want, you cannot go by a picture, or what he says he likes. A little research on what kids are listening to these days, and you ve invented yourself an 18 yr. old. Where are her parents in all this internet freedom? If he is asking questions about if other people know about him, I would be instantly suspicious. TELL HER PARENTS, or go to the police, as this person is definitely not who he says he is. Even if he is, he is much too old for her and he could be arrested. Tell someone, I urge you before your cousin ends up missing or dead.
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Tell someone!!!
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Mh 13 yrs still don't know much about world she thinks she is smart on this one if you love her pls tell her parents because that is love if you won't tell because of thinking she will be mad that's not love you need to tell to serve her
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It's definitely not love. But I feel the best course of action would be to tell her parents, guardians, or whoever she lives with. Since she is only 13 she is obviously immature and doesn't know what she is doing. When she finds out you told someone, she will be upset, hurt, and mad. But in time she will get over it. And when she grows up she'll realize what a stupid mistake it was. Good luck. Please tell someone before it's too late.
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Your cousin is naive. She must have been unhappy with her looks and wondered why guys her age have not recognized her and liked her yet. She's happy someone likes her but it's desperate on her part to be happy over some guy online. A lot of guys online, fake identity or not, will tell a girl online things she wants a guy to say to her. I have a cousin who is 19. When she was in high school, she would just go home and then to school. She ended up meeting a guy from a chat room and the guy ended up moving into my aunt and uncle's house. My cousin lied to my cousins on my mom's side of the family about where she met the guy. My mom has been over at my aunt's house at times last year to look after my grandmother before she ended up moving back to the Philippines. My mom told me that my cousin's boyfriend never said, "Hi" to her. She told me that my cousin's boyfriend was so skinny and now he's really fat. He just freeloads off my aunt and uncle's fridge. He ended up impregnating my cousin and they now have a little girl. The guy does not want to work despite being a father now. My uncle came out of retirement to work again and my aunt always keeps losing a job. My cousin works and on welfare despite still living with my aunt and uncle. It's a sad situation. My aunt and uncle share the blame for not getting through to my cousin and not kicking the guy out of their house. The guy your cousin met is just brainwashing her. He doesn't want anyone who is friends or related to your cousin to know about him because he knows they will try to convince her to stop talking to him. She's only 13 so there's plenty of time for other guys to notice her that are not through chatting online. You have to tell your cousins folks or else she'll end up running away to be with that guy and something terrible can happen to her (pregnant, raped or killed). If you don't tell your cousin's folks then her folks will likely question her about getting texts and sending texts to a person she doesn't really know. If your cousin gets mad at you then she'll end up getting over it and forgiving you. It's good that deeply care about your cousin. I hope that this helps and take care of yourself. I mean it ~ Alan
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Tell the police! What hes doing is illegal. Hes grooming her and this could potentially be fatal. At 13 shes very vulnerable and needs to be monitored whilst on the internet
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Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Would anyone be so kind to proofread my cover letter?
Would anyone be so kind to proofread my cover letter?
I don't usually ask anyone for help while writing a cover letter, but now it's kind of crucial for me. I would appreciate if anyone could have a look at it quickly and juts let me know about some mistakes or bad stylistics I could have made. Thanks a lot!!!! ******* Dear Andrew, as you probably know, I'm currently working as a Community Manager at Facebook. I love the company, but however great experience it has been, I‘ve been starting to look around for a new opportunity besides. We have been paid peanuts for half a year and we don’t have good prospects unfortunately, as the strategy for our Birmingham team is „internships only“. I am applying for the grad position posted on your website. At your convenience, I'd appreciate the opportunity to discuss the position and my candidacy with you. You can find my CV attached to this e-mail or online at: xxxx My extensive experience for the past 8 year gives me a unique ability to excel in various fields across marketing, advertising and sales. Before joining Facebook, I worked as a Campaign Manager at Citibank, Product & Project Manager in HSBC, Project & Telesales Manager in a multinational IT company and Account Director & Partner in an innovative digital ad agency. I have an account handling experience, thorough analytical and planning skills and I benefit from international experience combined with interest in world economies and linguistry. I enjoy fast-paced environment, I am self-motivated do-er with solid work ethic and I take an entrepreneurial approach to anything I do. I’ve been watching Saatchi’s work, team and company’s spirit since we’ve joined your office and I believe I would be an ideal match for this position. I'd love to find out more about the position you're looking to fill, and I would welcome the opportunity to tell you how my skills and ideas can benefit Saatchi. Thanks for your consideration, I look forward to hearing from you soon! Best regards, Jan Thank you so much! I really appreciate your help
Words & Wordplay - 2 Answers
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I think it sounds good, but is too long. I would take out the paragraphs about yourself. That is not what a cover letter is meant for. They are supposed to be super short and to the point. I work in Human Resources and a lot of the managers do not even look at applications that are very long and "flowery."
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>> as you probably know, I'm currently working as a Community >> Manager at Facebook. This is extraneous. Delete it. >> I love the company, Rewrite :I love my position as a community Manager at Facebook >> but however great experience it has been, I‘ve been starting to >> look around for a new opportunity besides. Rewrite: but am now look for other opportunies to advance my career. >> We have been paid peanuts for half a year and we don’t >> have good prospects unfortunately, as the strategy for >> our Birmingham team is „internships only“. Stop complaining. Really. Not in a cover letter. >> I’ve been watching Saatchi’s work, team and >> company’s spirit I'm not sure about this phrase. >> since we’ve joined your office and I believe Unclear, perhaps it would be clear to the reader. >> I would be an ideal match for this position. Good I believe this sentence could be made better by a pro. >> I'd love to find out more about the position How can you be an ideal match if you don't know all the details? You have a good start. Hopefully other people will have more ideas and you can have the stellar letter you deserve.
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I don't usually ask anyone for help while writing a cover letter, but now it's kind of crucial for me. I would appreciate if anyone could have a look at it quickly and juts let me know about some mistakes or bad stylistics I could have made. Thanks a lot!!!! ******* Dear Andrew, as you probably know, I'm currently working as a Community Manager at Facebook. I love the company, but however great experience it has been, I‘ve been starting to look around for a new opportunity besides. We have been paid peanuts for half a year and we don’t have good prospects unfortunately, as the strategy for our Birmingham team is „internships only“. I am applying for the grad position posted on your website. At your convenience, I'd appreciate the opportunity to discuss the position and my candidacy with you. You can find my CV attached to this e-mail or online at: xxxx My extensive experience for the past 8 year gives me a unique ability to excel in various fields across marketing, advertising and sales. Before joining Facebook, I worked as a Campaign Manager at Citibank, Product & Project Manager in HSBC, Project & Telesales Manager in a multinational IT company and Account Director & Partner in an innovative digital ad agency. I have an account handling experience, thorough analytical and planning skills and I benefit from international experience combined with interest in world economies and linguistry. I enjoy fast-paced environment, I am self-motivated do-er with solid work ethic and I take an entrepreneurial approach to anything I do. I’ve been watching Saatchi’s work, team and company’s spirit since we’ve joined your office and I believe I would be an ideal match for this position. I'd love to find out more about the position you're looking to fill, and I would welcome the opportunity to tell you how my skills and ideas can benefit Saatchi. Thanks for your consideration, I look forward to hearing from you soon! Best regards, Jan Thank you so much! I really appreciate your help
Words & Wordplay - 2 Answers
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I think it sounds good, but is too long. I would take out the paragraphs about yourself. That is not what a cover letter is meant for. They are supposed to be super short and to the point. I work in Human Resources and a lot of the managers do not even look at applications that are very long and "flowery."
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>> as you probably know, I'm currently working as a Community >> Manager at Facebook. This is extraneous. Delete it. >> I love the company, Rewrite :I love my position as a community Manager at Facebook >> but however great experience it has been, I‘ve been starting to >> look around for a new opportunity besides. Rewrite: but am now look for other opportunies to advance my career. >> We have been paid peanuts for half a year and we don’t >> have good prospects unfortunately, as the strategy for >> our Birmingham team is „internships only“. Stop complaining. Really. Not in a cover letter. >> I’ve been watching Saatchi’s work, team and >> company’s spirit I'm not sure about this phrase. >> since we’ve joined your office and I believe Unclear, perhaps it would be clear to the reader. >> I would be an ideal match for this position. Good I believe this sentence could be made better by a pro. >> I'd love to find out more about the position How can you be an ideal match if you don't know all the details? You have a good start. Hopefully other people will have more ideas and you can have the stellar letter you deserve.
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Sunday, November 28, 2010
Best friend kissed me in truth or dare?
Best friend kissed me in truth or dare?
I'm 16 and my best friend Jessica is 15. We've known each other for about 5 years now. Imagine her as a British, Kingdom Hearts fanatic, blonde, blue eyes, average size girl. If you wanna know how we met, read this: 5 years ago, she was living in England. Cause of the ridiculous rape crimes that happened in her neighborhood, her family had to move out of there and move in my neighborhood in Staten Island, NY.While they were unloading their things into their new home, me and my parents went over to greet them. (My sister was busy watching tv like she is today and my little brother was sleeping) We helped them with the unloading and that's when I said Jessica. She was absolutely cute, but she never seem interested in being friends with me. By the time we got to middle school, things changed. It was her first day of middle school and already she is getting teased on by her fellow classmates. The guys said how our school is not a Catholic school since she was wearing a uniform (and I found it to be very hot) and the girls saying guys will never do a girl with big boobs (Her's would be like the size of Jessica Simpson's) Back then, almost all the girls' chests were flat and she was the only few who has it big. Maybe they were jealous. So they continued to tease around until I stepped in and did something. I discussed it with the assistant principal about it. (he's my dad's friend) And the next day, he suspended the selected who teased at her. I told Jess how I got those awful kids out of the school for awhile. She was so happy in tears that she hugged me and said if we can be best friends forever. I said sure and that's how we became just that. As the years went by, we hang out a lot, play a lot of video games on my PS3 (even though I literally let her win) and even chat on Facebook a lot. :) So here's the problem: A couple days ago before I start asking it here at Yahoo! Answers, my best friend was invited to a birthday party with all her other friends. She was so excited, but also scared. She had never been to anyone's birthday party before and she was worried about all the strangers she doesn't know, so she asked me if I have time to come with her to her friend's birthday party. I said yes cause I pretty much had nothing else to do. So when it was her friend's birthday, we were at her house. Her friend opened the door and sure enough, her house was full of girls. I felt very uncomfortable about being around a bunch of them (some of them happened to be very, very hot) and not a single guy but me, so I told Jess that I was leaving. She cried out to me not to go and she hugged me by the arm. I felt really bad about leaving her alone, so I took the risk and stayed with her throughout the party. It was exciting and fun until we played truth or dare. I happened to think that truth or dare were for kids, but since everyone was playing, I'd go in a play with them. It was the birthday girl's turn and she told Jessica "Truth or dare". Jessica said dare and the birthday girl and the two girls next to her started whispering to each other. When they were done, she said, " I triple dog dare you to kiss your best friend. Lip TO lip". Everyone was giggling and oood, but I gasped. Jess' face was all red and her bangs was covering her eyes. I bet she frighten to do it, but it was a triple dog dare. She started crawling up to me very slowly in a sexy way, I guess. By the time she was close enough to me, she said,"Please forgive me for this". Jess wrapped her arms around my neck, looked me in the eyes as if she was trying to tell me that we were made for each other, and then kissed me. It wasn't a lip to lip kiss, it felt more like tongue kissing. I was surprised, but it felt so right to kiss her. It lasted for a couple of seconds and everyone around us were going awww. After the birthday party ended, we went walking home together. We still continue to see each other, sit each other on the bus to school, but we never seem talk or look at each other now. But worse, it became the hot topic at school. I want to tell her how I feel and that I want it more than a friendship, but I'm not that kind of guy that throws himself and just say it to a girl. Any ideas? If not, do I just go with my plan and throw myself.
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we girls like guys who talk to us directly how u feel about us.. well if u never talk abt it, we dont know it, then dont blame us.. she's embarrassed.. yes.. because u guys arent in any relationship.. and she thinks ure just a best friend.. anyways.. go find out.. tell her how u feel.. if for any reason she doesnt like u back, and she break the friendship, let it go.. coz ure not made for each other.. even for best friends.. so dont force it.. dont regret it coz u tried.. and u are being a man by telling her how u feel instead of hiding it.. telling her how u feel about her is NOT throwing urself to a random girl.. she's not a nobody.. u like her, its ok to confess.. shows ure not a pussy.. lol.. just sayin..
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I'm 16 and my best friend Jessica is 15. We've known each other for about 5 years now. Imagine her as a British, Kingdom Hearts fanatic, blonde, blue eyes, average size girl. If you wanna know how we met, read this: 5 years ago, she was living in England. Cause of the ridiculous rape crimes that happened in her neighborhood, her family had to move out of there and move in my neighborhood in Staten Island, NY.While they were unloading their things into their new home, me and my parents went over to greet them. (My sister was busy watching tv like she is today and my little brother was sleeping) We helped them with the unloading and that's when I said Jessica. She was absolutely cute, but she never seem interested in being friends with me. By the time we got to middle school, things changed. It was her first day of middle school and already she is getting teased on by her fellow classmates. The guys said how our school is not a Catholic school since she was wearing a uniform (and I found it to be very hot) and the girls saying guys will never do a girl with big boobs (Her's would be like the size of Jessica Simpson's) Back then, almost all the girls' chests were flat and she was the only few who has it big. Maybe they were jealous. So they continued to tease around until I stepped in and did something. I discussed it with the assistant principal about it. (he's my dad's friend) And the next day, he suspended the selected who teased at her. I told Jess how I got those awful kids out of the school for awhile. She was so happy in tears that she hugged me and said if we can be best friends forever. I said sure and that's how we became just that. As the years went by, we hang out a lot, play a lot of video games on my PS3 (even though I literally let her win) and even chat on Facebook a lot. :) So here's the problem: A couple days ago before I start asking it here at Yahoo! Answers, my best friend was invited to a birthday party with all her other friends. She was so excited, but also scared. She had never been to anyone's birthday party before and she was worried about all the strangers she doesn't know, so she asked me if I have time to come with her to her friend's birthday party. I said yes cause I pretty much had nothing else to do. So when it was her friend's birthday, we were at her house. Her friend opened the door and sure enough, her house was full of girls. I felt very uncomfortable about being around a bunch of them (some of them happened to be very, very hot) and not a single guy but me, so I told Jess that I was leaving. She cried out to me not to go and she hugged me by the arm. I felt really bad about leaving her alone, so I took the risk and stayed with her throughout the party. It was exciting and fun until we played truth or dare. I happened to think that truth or dare were for kids, but since everyone was playing, I'd go in a play with them. It was the birthday girl's turn and she told Jessica "Truth or dare". Jessica said dare and the birthday girl and the two girls next to her started whispering to each other. When they were done, she said, " I triple dog dare you to kiss your best friend. Lip TO lip". Everyone was giggling and oood, but I gasped. Jess' face was all red and her bangs was covering her eyes. I bet she frighten to do it, but it was a triple dog dare. She started crawling up to me very slowly in a sexy way, I guess. By the time she was close enough to me, she said,"Please forgive me for this". Jess wrapped her arms around my neck, looked me in the eyes as if she was trying to tell me that we were made for each other, and then kissed me. It wasn't a lip to lip kiss, it felt more like tongue kissing. I was surprised, but it felt so right to kiss her. It lasted for a couple of seconds and everyone around us were going awww. After the birthday party ended, we went walking home together. We still continue to see each other, sit each other on the bus to school, but we never seem talk or look at each other now. But worse, it became the hot topic at school. I want to tell her how I feel and that I want it more than a friendship, but I'm not that kind of guy that throws himself and just say it to a girl. Any ideas? If not, do I just go with my plan and throw myself.
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we girls like guys who talk to us directly how u feel about us.. well if u never talk abt it, we dont know it, then dont blame us.. she's embarrassed.. yes.. because u guys arent in any relationship.. and she thinks ure just a best friend.. anyways.. go find out.. tell her how u feel.. if for any reason she doesnt like u back, and she break the friendship, let it go.. coz ure not made for each other.. even for best friends.. so dont force it.. dont regret it coz u tried.. and u are being a man by telling her how u feel instead of hiding it.. telling her how u feel about her is NOT throwing urself to a random girl.. she's not a nobody.. u like her, its ok to confess.. shows ure not a pussy.. lol.. just sayin..
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Sunday, November 14, 2010
Where do you draw the line with boyfriends and their ex girlfriends?
Where do you draw the line with boyfriends and their ex girlfriends?
My boyfriend and I have been together 6 months, however in the last month he's started talking to his ex again. She lives in florida (we're in england) so I know it could be worse, but he talks a lot, always signed on msn to talk to her, facebook messages, the lot. We've discussed our future many times, and everything was going amazing until she came along and at times he says he isn't talking to her when I know he is and he refuses to talk about the issue as he says i don't trust him if I have to ask because he loves me with all his heart. But, I can't help but have my doubts. Even without face to face contact you still have the emotional involvement, what should i do?
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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You have 2 choices: 1. Realize he's there (with you) and she's in Florida, thousands of miles away. She's no threat to you.... she's a f--king internet image. Go to the mature corner of your mind, and realize he's a doofus, but he's YOUR doofus; and the bimbo in Florida can't hurt you. 2. Dump his @$$. TAKE YOUR PICK!!!!
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If that situation makes you uncomfortable then you should ask him to lessen the amount of time he spends talking to her. If he can't do that for you, then maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship. He should be fine with not talking to her as much to make you happy. I don't think it has anything to do with trust, honestly. He'd unconsciously do the same thing (get a little jealous), so just talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. He should respect your wishes.
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My boyfriend and I have been together 6 months, however in the last month he's started talking to his ex again. She lives in florida (we're in england) so I know it could be worse, but he talks a lot, always signed on msn to talk to her, facebook messages, the lot. We've discussed our future many times, and everything was going amazing until she came along and at times he says he isn't talking to her when I know he is and he refuses to talk about the issue as he says i don't trust him if I have to ask because he loves me with all his heart. But, I can't help but have my doubts. Even without face to face contact you still have the emotional involvement, what should i do?
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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You have 2 choices: 1. Realize he's there (with you) and she's in Florida, thousands of miles away. She's no threat to you.... she's a f--king internet image. Go to the mature corner of your mind, and realize he's a doofus, but he's YOUR doofus; and the bimbo in Florida can't hurt you. 2. Dump his @$$. TAKE YOUR PICK!!!!
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If that situation makes you uncomfortable then you should ask him to lessen the amount of time he spends talking to her. If he can't do that for you, then maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship. He should be fine with not talking to her as much to make you happy. I don't think it has anything to do with trust, honestly. He'd unconsciously do the same thing (get a little jealous), so just talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. He should respect your wishes.
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Sunday, November 7, 2010
is he in it for the long run?
is he in it for the long run?
I know he loves me, he does everything to show it, he really is amazing, but at times when we discuss our plans (we live together) he says I cant wait to o to england and always makes his plans. I commented on it and now he always includes me and corrects himself if he leaves "us" out of something big. But He left his facebook up and i noticed that he commented his bestfriend who is female, and said that he is tihnking about moving to new south wales. He knows i dont want to move there and we have discussed this. ?? he then goes to far somtimes saying he cant wait to have children, and get engaged and things?? is he just saying those things to try convince me that he is sticking around ??
Other - Family & Relationships - 2 Answers
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It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. Many young guys are like this. They tend to live in the present and not think about the future so much.
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may be he is just only saying because there are no conditions in love .he is just only saying and nothing else.Do not attract towards his personality be realistic.Be clear in your derision.
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I know he loves me, he does everything to show it, he really is amazing, but at times when we discuss our plans (we live together) he says I cant wait to o to england and always makes his plans. I commented on it and now he always includes me and corrects himself if he leaves "us" out of something big. But He left his facebook up and i noticed that he commented his bestfriend who is female, and said that he is tihnking about moving to new south wales. He knows i dont want to move there and we have discussed this. ?? he then goes to far somtimes saying he cant wait to have children, and get engaged and things?? is he just saying those things to try convince me that he is sticking around ??
Other - Family & Relationships - 2 Answers
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It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. Many young guys are like this. They tend to live in the present and not think about the future so much.
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may be he is just only saying because there are no conditions in love .he is just only saying and nothing else.Do not attract towards his personality be realistic.Be clear in your derision.
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Monday, November 1, 2010
I dont know whether to stop seeing this guy i am with and i have 12 hours to decide.?
I dont know whether to stop seeing this guy i am with and i have 12 hours to decide.?
Bit about me first, I am a gay 16 year old who lives in northumberland, england. At the begining of december i added the friend of a friedn on facebook. His friend had told me that he was gay, just like me. We got talking loads and really headed off. We met up a few times and kissed and all that. We are gradually getting more and more smitten with each other. I am so happy i found him because i got seriously hurt and lied to by my first love back in september. I am falling for this guy alot. There is only one problem. He has only come out to a few of his friends and thats the way it has been for a long time. He basicly told me he hates been gay but knew that if he came out to everyone and to his parents it would all be fine but he is too afraid to. I rang him last night and said that i reeli liked him but i felt i'd hit a brick wall and didnt think that we couldnt take things further unless he was secure enough to come out. He said i was right but he was really upset so he is going to ring me tonight to discuss it properly. I need help, what do you think i should do/say?
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i'm a bisexual 17 year old boy... i've barely come out, he shouldn't have to tell his parents family, friends whatever. just keep it going until its absolutely neccessary and crucial. i don't have the strength to tell my parents, i doubt i ever will. good luck. i wish i was in your situation with a boy im quite lonely atm (: actually.. if you can help me that'd be good. seankelleher_93@live.co.uk
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he is still young . you need to give him time to come out when he is ready.
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He shouldn't be pressured into coming out if it could potentially cause arguments and put him in a bad position. If that doesn't apply to him though, and he's just not confident enough then I think he should still do it in his own time. At the same time, if you feel he has to do it at the sake of your relationship, tell him that and let him decides what he wants to do. You should also take it into consideration that at the end of the day it isn't really anyone's business who you're both going out with. Telling his parents/peers could result in them interfering.
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I'm 15 years old and bi. I doubt I could tell my parents I'm bi unless I fall in love with a girl and decide she's the only one for me. However I might end up with a guy so why put them through that plus they they don't accept me already and it doesn't matter anymore. I'm going to be me. I'm not ready to come out and he isn't either. Please don't pressure him it's not fair. Let him come out when he's ready.
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Don't pressure him. Let him work this one out in his own time. Just stick by him and be supporting. He will trust u more this way.
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Hi, It's not always so easy for people to come out and accept themselves as gay due to (insert a million things here). Everyone has a different experience when coming out and, while it may have been easy for you, it may not be easy for him. Each person has to come to terms with their sexuality in their own way. It can't be rushed and we can't (or shouldn't) do it for them. I wouldn't dump the relationship just because he's afraid to come out. You may be the very epitome of sexuality for him and this may be the very thing to help him adjust. So, don't give up on him, especially if you think he's the deal. Just do your best to help him by loving him. That may be all he needs. When he realizes how settled you are and how happy you are with yourself, he may be able to grow to the point where it's the same for him. Give him a bit of patience and if, after a while, he still is unable to bring himself out, then you can make that decision then. Show him love, don't give him speeches unless he asks and be patient. You'll gain your rewards soon enough. Happy New Year and I hope it all goes well for you, Bret
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Okay! this is the kind of question I'm really good at! lol. so I'm also 16... and gay. it may be a tad different, because I'm from the u.s. but w.e so when he calls tonight, you need to come out and tell him straight up, as much as it may scare you, that you're falling for him, but you think he has to be brave enough to come out. and then, if you really do care for him like you say you do, you'll tell him that, and you'll remind him like 50 times that you'll be there for him through everything, the good and the bad. it's a big step to come out, as you may remember. but it's so much easier with somebody who cares about you leading the way. and you can tell him that his friends that he's come out to already will be there for him too. p.s. i'd love a pen pal from the u.k. i love the accents. haha. hit me up via e-mail :-D
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Just tell him that you love him. If you love him like you say you do, then that shouldn't be a problem. I think if you date him you will be able to help him out through the process
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I'm a lot older than you, and I'm bi, but I was in this situation myself several times during my late teens / early 20's. I don't think that this sounds the right time to come out. I never did, because in my case, the relationship that lasted was with a girl, so the question of coming out was resolved. I doubt if he thinks his parents will accept his sexuality, otherwise he'd have told them already. In this case, he shouldn't tell them until he's in a position to support himself, or has somewhere else to move to. It's not unknown for parents to throw their own children out of the house, or at least make it uncomfortable for them to stay, once they come out. In the meantime, you should support him, and be his friend, you know what he's going through at home, and you can be there for him. I hope I'm not too late with this, and I hope it works out for you both. Take care.
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Bit about me first, I am a gay 16 year old who lives in northumberland, england. At the begining of december i added the friend of a friedn on facebook. His friend had told me that he was gay, just like me. We got talking loads and really headed off. We met up a few times and kissed and all that. We are gradually getting more and more smitten with each other. I am so happy i found him because i got seriously hurt and lied to by my first love back in september. I am falling for this guy alot. There is only one problem. He has only come out to a few of his friends and thats the way it has been for a long time. He basicly told me he hates been gay but knew that if he came out to everyone and to his parents it would all be fine but he is too afraid to. I rang him last night and said that i reeli liked him but i felt i'd hit a brick wall and didnt think that we couldnt take things further unless he was secure enough to come out. He said i was right but he was really upset so he is going to ring me tonight to discuss it properly. I need help, what do you think i should do/say?
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 9 Answers
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i'm a bisexual 17 year old boy... i've barely come out, he shouldn't have to tell his parents family, friends whatever. just keep it going until its absolutely neccessary and crucial. i don't have the strength to tell my parents, i doubt i ever will. good luck. i wish i was in your situation with a boy im quite lonely atm (: actually.. if you can help me that'd be good. seankelleher_93@live.co.uk
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he is still young . you need to give him time to come out when he is ready.
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He shouldn't be pressured into coming out if it could potentially cause arguments and put him in a bad position. If that doesn't apply to him though, and he's just not confident enough then I think he should still do it in his own time. At the same time, if you feel he has to do it at the sake of your relationship, tell him that and let him decides what he wants to do. You should also take it into consideration that at the end of the day it isn't really anyone's business who you're both going out with. Telling his parents/peers could result in them interfering.
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I'm 15 years old and bi. I doubt I could tell my parents I'm bi unless I fall in love with a girl and decide she's the only one for me. However I might end up with a guy so why put them through that plus they they don't accept me already and it doesn't matter anymore. I'm going to be me. I'm not ready to come out and he isn't either. Please don't pressure him it's not fair. Let him come out when he's ready.
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Don't pressure him. Let him work this one out in his own time. Just stick by him and be supporting. He will trust u more this way.
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Hi, It's not always so easy for people to come out and accept themselves as gay due to (insert a million things here). Everyone has a different experience when coming out and, while it may have been easy for you, it may not be easy for him. Each person has to come to terms with their sexuality in their own way. It can't be rushed and we can't (or shouldn't) do it for them. I wouldn't dump the relationship just because he's afraid to come out. You may be the very epitome of sexuality for him and this may be the very thing to help him adjust. So, don't give up on him, especially if you think he's the deal. Just do your best to help him by loving him. That may be all he needs. When he realizes how settled you are and how happy you are with yourself, he may be able to grow to the point where it's the same for him. Give him a bit of patience and if, after a while, he still is unable to bring himself out, then you can make that decision then. Show him love, don't give him speeches unless he asks and be patient. You'll gain your rewards soon enough. Happy New Year and I hope it all goes well for you, Bret
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Okay! this is the kind of question I'm really good at! lol. so I'm also 16... and gay. it may be a tad different, because I'm from the u.s. but w.e so when he calls tonight, you need to come out and tell him straight up, as much as it may scare you, that you're falling for him, but you think he has to be brave enough to come out. and then, if you really do care for him like you say you do, you'll tell him that, and you'll remind him like 50 times that you'll be there for him through everything, the good and the bad. it's a big step to come out, as you may remember. but it's so much easier with somebody who cares about you leading the way. and you can tell him that his friends that he's come out to already will be there for him too. p.s. i'd love a pen pal from the u.k. i love the accents. haha. hit me up via e-mail :-D
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Just tell him that you love him. If you love him like you say you do, then that shouldn't be a problem. I think if you date him you will be able to help him out through the process
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I'm a lot older than you, and I'm bi, but I was in this situation myself several times during my late teens / early 20's. I don't think that this sounds the right time to come out. I never did, because in my case, the relationship that lasted was with a girl, so the question of coming out was resolved. I doubt if he thinks his parents will accept his sexuality, otherwise he'd have told them already. In this case, he shouldn't tell them until he's in a position to support himself, or has somewhere else to move to. It's not unknown for parents to throw their own children out of the house, or at least make it uncomfortable for them to stay, once they come out. In the meantime, you should support him, and be his friend, you know what he's going through at home, and you can be there for him. I hope I'm not too late with this, and I hope it works out for you both. Take care.
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Thursday, October 28, 2010
facebook poke, what do i do?
facebook poke, what do i do?
I just received a 'poke' on facebook, not just from anyone, but from an ex-girlfriend I went to college with. We dated the 1st half of 2009 and through the summer, at which point she broke it off because she felt that she didn't have the same type of feelings for me as I did for her. I was pretty upset about it for a while because it was my first serious relationship. Anyway, after we returned to campus in the Fall, I made some half-hearted attempts to get back with her by suggesting we hang out (mostly it was in my head hoping she would conclude she made a mistake, but that never happened), and it eventually turned into sporadic coffee dates to update our lives to each other. In the start of 2010, I met and got together with a new girl from my classes and while we've never officially defined anything, we have been spending time together ever since. I have not spoken to my ex, other than a couple short conversations online, in close to a year. I am studying abroad this term in Germany, and she is in England this term. We have not discussed trying to meet up. Her birthday was 3 days ago, I did not write 'happy birthday' on her facebook wall as I do not usually for anyone outside of my best friends. Considering we have not spoken in so long, I'm not sure what to interpret from the speechless communication of a facebook poke. Why a poke? Why not a facebook wall post 'hey, how have you been?' or an email or a message? Do I poke back? Do I ignore? Do I message back? Please help!
Other - Family & Relationships - 6 Answers
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give her a poke with your meat stick!
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OMG it is just a poke. Poke her back, then hey whatever. Talk, or don't. You are totally overthinking.
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sounds like she is trying to get your attention so i would talk to her see whats going on and you know have a good chat. hopes this helps
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Just poke her back. A poke doesn't mean anything.
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A poke is a sweet little thing. Its a way of saying "hey" without having to. That is all. It could be flirtacious. Seems like you have some unfinished business with her, but don't pursue it right now, as you are seeing someone else. Poke back and keep poking if she responds. Its cute, but if you don't want to be "cute" with her, then just X the poke.
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She probably poked you because you didn't wish her a happy birthday-lol...I wouldn't sweat it...don't poke back...
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I just received a 'poke' on facebook, not just from anyone, but from an ex-girlfriend I went to college with. We dated the 1st half of 2009 and through the summer, at which point she broke it off because she felt that she didn't have the same type of feelings for me as I did for her. I was pretty upset about it for a while because it was my first serious relationship. Anyway, after we returned to campus in the Fall, I made some half-hearted attempts to get back with her by suggesting we hang out (mostly it was in my head hoping she would conclude she made a mistake, but that never happened), and it eventually turned into sporadic coffee dates to update our lives to each other. In the start of 2010, I met and got together with a new girl from my classes and while we've never officially defined anything, we have been spending time together ever since. I have not spoken to my ex, other than a couple short conversations online, in close to a year. I am studying abroad this term in Germany, and she is in England this term. We have not discussed trying to meet up. Her birthday was 3 days ago, I did not write 'happy birthday' on her facebook wall as I do not usually for anyone outside of my best friends. Considering we have not spoken in so long, I'm not sure what to interpret from the speechless communication of a facebook poke. Why a poke? Why not a facebook wall post 'hey, how have you been?' or an email or a message? Do I poke back? Do I ignore? Do I message back? Please help!
Other - Family & Relationships - 6 Answers
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give her a poke with your meat stick!
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OMG it is just a poke. Poke her back, then hey whatever. Talk, or don't. You are totally overthinking.
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sounds like she is trying to get your attention so i would talk to her see whats going on and you know have a good chat. hopes this helps
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Just poke her back. A poke doesn't mean anything.
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A poke is a sweet little thing. Its a way of saying "hey" without having to. That is all. It could be flirtacious. Seems like you have some unfinished business with her, but don't pursue it right now, as you are seeing someone else. Poke back and keep poking if she responds. Its cute, but if you don't want to be "cute" with her, then just X the poke.
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She probably poked you because you didn't wish her a happy birthday-lol...I wouldn't sweat it...don't poke back...
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Thursday, October 14, 2010
Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
He moved over to london frim Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
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They have telephones in Ireland do they not? I think he sees you as a temporary dalliance and he doesn't want anyone to find out at home. He is being dishonest with his girlfriend at home and he is using you. I would dump him, cause I really believe you are in way over your head and are fixing to get your heart broken yet again. Always listen to your gut, if it looks like a duck, it is probably a duck.
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He moved over to london frim Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
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They have telephones in Ireland do they not? I think he sees you as a temporary dalliance and he doesn't want anyone to find out at home. He is being dishonest with his girlfriend at home and he is using you. I would dump him, cause I really believe you are in way over your head and are fixing to get your heart broken yet again. Always listen to your gut, if it looks like a duck, it is probably a duck.
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Thursday, October 7, 2010
Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
He moved over to london frim Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
Marriage & Divorce - 6 Answers
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no
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do you get paid to post this nonsense over and over again?
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girl if he ain't willing to splash it all over Facebook you need to drop his azz how disrespectful he is being towards you by not acknowledging you to all his Facebook "friends"
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if he cant tell the world he loves you. he might not.
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I think he might be for real what you need to do is tell him to tell her right away so you can feel more confident.If he does not tell her then you might want to keep your eyes open.I have a feeling he is telling the truth and does care for you by what you have said about him.Let him know this is bothering you.
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Yes
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He moved over to london frim Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
Marriage & Divorce - 6 Answers
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no
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do you get paid to post this nonsense over and over again?
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girl if he ain't willing to splash it all over Facebook you need to drop his azz how disrespectful he is being towards you by not acknowledging you to all his Facebook "friends"
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if he cant tell the world he loves you. he might not.
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I think he might be for real what you need to do is tell him to tell her right away so you can feel more confident.If he does not tell her then you might want to keep your eyes open.I have a feeling he is telling the truth and does care for you by what you have said about him.Let him know this is bothering you.
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Yes
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Friday, October 1, 2010
She would not talk to me at all, what should I do?
She would not talk to me at all, what should I do?
Hi everyone, I have been with this girl since December 2007 and I love her loads. She is my first long term and serious relationship. Anyways, we have been having a long distance relationship ever since we started. I was seeing her on average every 2/3 weeks over the whole period. We somehow managed to make it work even though I was the one that was always going to see her. Recently, we had been discussing engagement and it got really stressfull with lots of pressure and we started fighting and she started saying very hurtful things and how I am not worth it and that my family is controlling me and changing our plans. We were supposed to get engaged 26th December but because of family committements, I told her to move it to 29th. So she started being abusive saying really harsh things that I am very weak and emotional and that I was not worth it. She made me so angry that the next day I said really horrible things to her on facebook and since I had access to her account, blocked her out of it and said very mean things. OK, I agree what I did is very immature and silly and I regret doing it very much. I restored all as it was, deleted messages and gave her the account back. I have been feeling really bad about it since it happened and I have tried so many times to reach her by phone, texts, e-mails but she is not replying to me at all. I have explained that I am sorry, I regret what I did, that I'll do what it takes to fix things with her, her family and friends and whoever saw the messages I wrote. I have been thinking about it all and I really miss her lots and can't stop thinking about her. I have been so miserable lately and I can't get her out of my head and can't wait to get her back. I have sent her flowers once as well. Yesterday was our second anniversary and it was especially hard. By the way, I am now living in London and she is finishing her studies in Paris. What I don't understand is how she can forget all that we shared over one incident? Yes it was ugly and not small but I really did not mean it and I lost it that day. I am now thinking to go and see her next weekend in Paris to talk since I can't get through to her. I know that she will probably still not want to talk to me but it is a risk I have to take cos she means the world to me! We have a common friend there and he will try to invite her over to their place and then I'll come over and hopefully we can talk. I am planning to send her flowers every day this week to soften her heart. She is a very stubborn person and not very forthcoming with her emotions and she can be really cold. I have done so much for her, stood by her last year when her mother passed away, when she was finding it tough at uni, always supported her, used to go to Paris to cheer her up and make her feel good. By the way I am 29 and she is 28. I want some genuine advice on what to do! I am completely lost and all I can think of is wanting her back. Yes, we have had out fights and bad moments but for me we have had so much more happier moments and it is those that are keeping me attached. Thanks to everyone for their advice. I admit it was very immature and I was so mad that day and completely out of control. I regret that extremely. Should I go and see her or just accept it is over even though I still love her and can't wait to get her back? should i go to Paris to see her and talk to her? She has never cheated on me and I know that there is no other guy.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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If she can say horrible and abusive things about your worth, you need to see a big red flag there. If you think that she does this as a defensive thing about being hurt - then tell her that's something you need her to work on if you both decide to give the relationship another go. Flowers do help - but if she's that stubborn and it's about how she's better than you and you're worth less... that may be something that is always there. You should never, NEVER be with someone who puts you down or doesn't feel lucky and appreciative to have you in their life. The Facebook thing was dumb, and immature. You're 29? Behave that way, as I was reading this I thought that I was reading something from a 15 y/o. Good Luck.
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I had something similar happen to me a few years back and it turned out in the end that because we were so far apart for so long, she cheated on me a few times. After she cheated on me, suddenly she was a different person; tactless, aggressive, cold and heartless. In retrospect, I should have just dumped her and moved on. But love doesn't make thesse decisionas any easier. I ended up getting hurt badly, HATING her and losing a good chunk of my early twenties feeling depressed. If this girl is the love of your life, sit her down one day and talk to her face to face about everything. Lay it all out, no secrets, no regrets -- just talk to her as openly as possible. Ask her tough questions. Be firm. It will be a hard moment, maybe even ugly, but at least you'll have a clear picture of what's going on inside her head. Before you make up your mind, take a day or two to think about everything you talked about and try to view it as objectively as possible. After all, you're talking about engagement and marriage.. if you can't work out problems before getting married, if you eventually walk down that path your married life may be even harder. One more thing, if she's also your friend, then try to approach that angle. Use a bit of humor when you're talking to her. Be friendly. Don't be too serious or obsessive because that may frighten her off. There's also a chance she's just really nervous about the whole thing to begin with. Marriage is a pretty big deal. Either way man, best of luck to you.
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Hi everyone, I have been with this girl since December 2007 and I love her loads. She is my first long term and serious relationship. Anyways, we have been having a long distance relationship ever since we started. I was seeing her on average every 2/3 weeks over the whole period. We somehow managed to make it work even though I was the one that was always going to see her. Recently, we had been discussing engagement and it got really stressfull with lots of pressure and we started fighting and she started saying very hurtful things and how I am not worth it and that my family is controlling me and changing our plans. We were supposed to get engaged 26th December but because of family committements, I told her to move it to 29th. So she started being abusive saying really harsh things that I am very weak and emotional and that I was not worth it. She made me so angry that the next day I said really horrible things to her on facebook and since I had access to her account, blocked her out of it and said very mean things. OK, I agree what I did is very immature and silly and I regret doing it very much. I restored all as it was, deleted messages and gave her the account back. I have been feeling really bad about it since it happened and I have tried so many times to reach her by phone, texts, e-mails but she is not replying to me at all. I have explained that I am sorry, I regret what I did, that I'll do what it takes to fix things with her, her family and friends and whoever saw the messages I wrote. I have been thinking about it all and I really miss her lots and can't stop thinking about her. I have been so miserable lately and I can't get her out of my head and can't wait to get her back. I have sent her flowers once as well. Yesterday was our second anniversary and it was especially hard. By the way, I am now living in London and she is finishing her studies in Paris. What I don't understand is how she can forget all that we shared over one incident? Yes it was ugly and not small but I really did not mean it and I lost it that day. I am now thinking to go and see her next weekend in Paris to talk since I can't get through to her. I know that she will probably still not want to talk to me but it is a risk I have to take cos she means the world to me! We have a common friend there and he will try to invite her over to their place and then I'll come over and hopefully we can talk. I am planning to send her flowers every day this week to soften her heart. She is a very stubborn person and not very forthcoming with her emotions and she can be really cold. I have done so much for her, stood by her last year when her mother passed away, when she was finding it tough at uni, always supported her, used to go to Paris to cheer her up and make her feel good. By the way I am 29 and she is 28. I want some genuine advice on what to do! I am completely lost and all I can think of is wanting her back. Yes, we have had out fights and bad moments but for me we have had so much more happier moments and it is those that are keeping me attached. Thanks to everyone for their advice. I admit it was very immature and I was so mad that day and completely out of control. I regret that extremely. Should I go and see her or just accept it is over even though I still love her and can't wait to get her back? should i go to Paris to see her and talk to her? She has never cheated on me and I know that there is no other guy.
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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If she can say horrible and abusive things about your worth, you need to see a big red flag there. If you think that she does this as a defensive thing about being hurt - then tell her that's something you need her to work on if you both decide to give the relationship another go. Flowers do help - but if she's that stubborn and it's about how she's better than you and you're worth less... that may be something that is always there. You should never, NEVER be with someone who puts you down or doesn't feel lucky and appreciative to have you in their life. The Facebook thing was dumb, and immature. You're 29? Behave that way, as I was reading this I thought that I was reading something from a 15 y/o. Good Luck.
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I had something similar happen to me a few years back and it turned out in the end that because we were so far apart for so long, she cheated on me a few times. After she cheated on me, suddenly she was a different person; tactless, aggressive, cold and heartless. In retrospect, I should have just dumped her and moved on. But love doesn't make thesse decisionas any easier. I ended up getting hurt badly, HATING her and losing a good chunk of my early twenties feeling depressed. If this girl is the love of your life, sit her down one day and talk to her face to face about everything. Lay it all out, no secrets, no regrets -- just talk to her as openly as possible. Ask her tough questions. Be firm. It will be a hard moment, maybe even ugly, but at least you'll have a clear picture of what's going on inside her head. Before you make up your mind, take a day or two to think about everything you talked about and try to view it as objectively as possible. After all, you're talking about engagement and marriage.. if you can't work out problems before getting married, if you eventually walk down that path your married life may be even harder. One more thing, if she's also your friend, then try to approach that angle. Use a bit of humor when you're talking to her. Be friendly. Don't be too serious or obsessive because that may frighten her off. There's also a chance she's just really nervous about the whole thing to begin with. Marriage is a pretty big deal. Either way man, best of luck to you.
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Tuesday, September 28, 2010
my boyfriend was engaged now shes coming HELP?
my boyfriend was engaged now shes coming HELP?
Well to start off with, let me tell you a bit about us. Im 23 hes 33. we've been dating for 3 years and have a pretty good relationship, i love him and i believe he loves me too. However there is one thing standing in my way of taking the next step. HIS EX FIANCE! It all started when we began to get to know each other closer after about 3-4 months dating, we spoke about our exes as you normally do, however he took it to the next level. He told me he once got engaged to his family friend. She was the love of his life and he loved her since they were little kids. He told me that the reason they didn't go through with it, was because of her parents who thought she was too young (17 at the time) and too good for him. He then told me about how gorgeous she was, how much I HAD HER EYES and how he used to go across the country to just see her (she lives in london but were from australia) Then he asked me "If your parents didn't want us to be together would you stay with me?" i thought about it and said "Im sure if we were both in love we could figure something out." Instead of looking relieved he looked upset muttering "guess she didn't love me then ey?" At first i was a bit put out but he assured me it was all in the past. 3 more months went past and i completely forgot about this girl, then one day when looking through his family photos, i saw a photo of her. I didn't know it was her of course and then therefore asked my bf who it was. He looked at the photo and his face instantly changed. I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP OR EXAGGERATING I SWEAR. He looked so in love, he smiled so lovingly and kept staring at the photo. After a couple more seconds without a reply i asked again, he carefully put the photo back in the stack and then said "That's my cousin" I didn't believe him. I just knew it was this girl from the way he held and looked at the photo. I interrogated him and he eventually gave in and told me it was her. I asked him why he had this photo and he said he didn't know it much have been his families. I left it alone after he once again assured me its all in the past. However there were more incidents to come. A year into the relationship we were discussing baby names (joking around) He suggested Sandra, i didn't know the girls name at the time since i wasn't the jealous type i didn't look into it. Later however i found out that HER NAME WAS SANDY. Still i though i was exaggerating and there was nothing to it until it was time to meet the parents. I found out from them that they were extremely fond of her, she was a model and Absolutely gorgeous (I then remembered him mentioning that he would love a gf who's a model). Her photos were also all over the walls because sandra is related to his sisters husband (THANK YOU FOR MENTIONING THAT NOT) Anyway Im the type to always do cutesy things (drawings, letters you know) he always loves them but then quickly misplaces them and they are never to be seen again. I never got angry because i figured boys will be boys however a year and a half in i found a letter from SANDRA hidden in his cupboard. It was a hand made card and dated 5 years from then however it looked like it was brand new, so well kept. My bf got fired from work around then so i let that go and didn't say anything. about a year ago however i snapped when i found out he was using his sisters facebook to contact her. I knew they were talking because i could see from his sisters emails that they were contacting each other. However i couldn't find out what was said as he would delete the evidence. I told him straight out that i had enough of this girl and it was me or her. He immediatley said me, that he was only been nice and he loved me. Ok now today i find out shes coming here from london and staying with his sister (they live 2min from eachother) for 2 months...i have to attend a wedding with her in a week!!! i dont know how to act, i dont know how i want my bf to act. I dont know if i can deal with her been in my life forever! HELP PLEASE! let me know what you think does he sitll have feelings for her? what do you think? should i be nice and pretend like its not awkward???? THANKYOUUU Btw she is now 26 and i think her parents are warming up to the idea of her getting married :| I understand all your comments and agree but i also forgot to mention that she has a great resemblance to me - hair colour and style, eyes, figure and sometimes i cant help but feel that that's why he is with me :(
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he very obviously has feelings for her, but that is quite natural...for a person to always have feelings for their first love, especially if it was serious enough to get to engagement. the thing you need to be concerned about is what if anything he intends to do about his feelings. if she is currently available, there is a chance he will want to get back with her if she is open to that, but there is still the problem with her parents, which i assume did not just go away. i think it is far more likely that he realizes that she did not love him enough to find a way to be with him and that may hurt him for now. seeing her again may be hard for him and may reawaken some strong emotions, but if she is still not willing to be with him, it will all be for nothing. what you need to decide is whether or not you are willing to wait for him to work through all of this and wait for the day when this relationship is properly relegated to his past and left there. it will die a natural death eventually, but that may take time and patience on your part. if you feel your relationship with him is worth it, then hang on. if not, move on. it is up to you. in a perfect world, the person we love will love us back just as much and as strongly as we love them and neither of us will have any emotions or feelings left over for other people from our past, but we do not live in a perfect world, and people are complex and emotions, especially for guys, die hard. the reason i say "especially for guys" is because for some reason men have less defensive ablities to ward of the emotion and pain of a failed relationship than women do, so once they have committed to a love relationship with a woman, it is hard for them to let it go if it is the woman who initiates the break up...perhaps it is related to male pride, i don't know. i just know that it is what it is. as for attending the wedding, well that is up to you. but if it were me, i would go and show your bf that you are a strong and capable woman who has no fears and no insecurities just because of an ex...even if she is drop dead gorgeous.
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Oh My Gosh, i feel soooo bad for you. Ok well it seems like he still has some feelings for Sandy and im not going to tell you what to do with your relationship but you should follow your heart, if you still love him and he loves you , you should stay with him. If you can trust him not doing anything with Sandra you should be fine. and I would act normal around Sandy, dont freak out or anything. But if your bf starts acting like he likes sandy more than a friend i would start freaking out. hope this helps!
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It sounds like he never REALLY got over her, but keep in mind them being friends before hand. He did want to marry her, but it also sounds like he wants you because he can't have her, but he will more than likely never have her, so I wouldn't worry. As far as the letter goes, he probably saves it as a reminder of her, but your letters he doesn't have to keep because he has you, and I'm sure, from what you say, he loves you. It'll probably be good to meet her and you might even whined up friends. When you meet her, just say that he has spoken fondly about her and that you like to get to know her better. That's always a great starter line for this situation, in which I have been in. Remember that saying, keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer. Well, it's true and it does help in relationships. If you love him you'll befriend her. Some changes are required in a relationship, even difficult ones.
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Let me tell you what my future mother in law told me. My fiance has a childhood family friend that he used to like. They had major crushes on each other growing up. When I found out she was coming over to his house with her parents (I was there), I couldn't take it and stayed in his room with the door locked the entire time. I told my future mil that I would punch her in the face if I saw her, lol. She sat me down, and told me this. "He only has eyes for you. You must accept that this girl is a part of his life, and she will not go away. She is a family friend, and her parents are among my best friends. Your boyfriend has known her since they were in diapers. She is a part of his past, and you cannot erase that no matter how hard you try. Your life would be a whole lot easier if you could just accept that. Tomorrow, she is coming with our family to the festival. You CANNOT let her know that she's get to you, or you show your insecurities. If you want to be the mature one, you will politely say hello and introduce yourself and leave it at that. Let her know that you are secure in your relationship, and that her and your boyfriend's past does not bother you in the least, because you know he's all yours now." That changed everything for me. It turns out, later on that night, my boyfriend at the time proposed to me!!! So you can imagine the smile on my face when I shook that girl's hand with the hand that I had my ring on. ;) I'm not going to answer the question "does he still have feelings for her?" Only you know the answer to that question. Even if he does have feelings for her, give yourself more credit! You've been his ONLY one for the past three years, and you aren't going anywhere anytime soon. In other words, as insecure you are about this girl, she feels just as insecure about you as well. What I mean is you say she's "absolutely gorgeous" and I'm sure she's probably saying something like "he must love her if he's been with her for that long..." Get me? You both are insecure when it comes to the other. You are better than that, and you are better than her. Show her that. Smile, shake her hand, introduce yourself. Act as if you have no reason in the world to be worried about her, and that will make her the insecure one. Hold your boyfriend's hand and don't show any signs of jealousy, and don't be all over your boyfriend either. Have a nice balance. Hold his hand, smile at him, laugh at his jokes. You want to come across to her like you two are happier than ever, and that you have no reason to worry about her whatsoever. At least that's what I did, and it worked out for me well. I wish you good luck hun, I can only imagine how difficult this is xx
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Well to start off with, let me tell you a bit about us. Im 23 hes 33. we've been dating for 3 years and have a pretty good relationship, i love him and i believe he loves me too. However there is one thing standing in my way of taking the next step. HIS EX FIANCE! It all started when we began to get to know each other closer after about 3-4 months dating, we spoke about our exes as you normally do, however he took it to the next level. He told me he once got engaged to his family friend. She was the love of his life and he loved her since they were little kids. He told me that the reason they didn't go through with it, was because of her parents who thought she was too young (17 at the time) and too good for him. He then told me about how gorgeous she was, how much I HAD HER EYES and how he used to go across the country to just see her (she lives in london but were from australia) Then he asked me "If your parents didn't want us to be together would you stay with me?" i thought about it and said "Im sure if we were both in love we could figure something out." Instead of looking relieved he looked upset muttering "guess she didn't love me then ey?" At first i was a bit put out but he assured me it was all in the past. 3 more months went past and i completely forgot about this girl, then one day when looking through his family photos, i saw a photo of her. I didn't know it was her of course and then therefore asked my bf who it was. He looked at the photo and his face instantly changed. I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP OR EXAGGERATING I SWEAR. He looked so in love, he smiled so lovingly and kept staring at the photo. After a couple more seconds without a reply i asked again, he carefully put the photo back in the stack and then said "That's my cousin" I didn't believe him. I just knew it was this girl from the way he held and looked at the photo. I interrogated him and he eventually gave in and told me it was her. I asked him why he had this photo and he said he didn't know it much have been his families. I left it alone after he once again assured me its all in the past. However there were more incidents to come. A year into the relationship we were discussing baby names (joking around) He suggested Sandra, i didn't know the girls name at the time since i wasn't the jealous type i didn't look into it. Later however i found out that HER NAME WAS SANDY. Still i though i was exaggerating and there was nothing to it until it was time to meet the parents. I found out from them that they were extremely fond of her, she was a model and Absolutely gorgeous (I then remembered him mentioning that he would love a gf who's a model). Her photos were also all over the walls because sandra is related to his sisters husband (THANK YOU FOR MENTIONING THAT NOT) Anyway Im the type to always do cutesy things (drawings, letters you know) he always loves them but then quickly misplaces them and they are never to be seen again. I never got angry because i figured boys will be boys however a year and a half in i found a letter from SANDRA hidden in his cupboard. It was a hand made card and dated 5 years from then however it looked like it was brand new, so well kept. My bf got fired from work around then so i let that go and didn't say anything. about a year ago however i snapped when i found out he was using his sisters facebook to contact her. I knew they were talking because i could see from his sisters emails that they were contacting each other. However i couldn't find out what was said as he would delete the evidence. I told him straight out that i had enough of this girl and it was me or her. He immediatley said me, that he was only been nice and he loved me. Ok now today i find out shes coming here from london and staying with his sister (they live 2min from eachother) for 2 months...i have to attend a wedding with her in a week!!! i dont know how to act, i dont know how i want my bf to act. I dont know if i can deal with her been in my life forever! HELP PLEASE! let me know what you think does he sitll have feelings for her? what do you think? should i be nice and pretend like its not awkward???? THANKYOUUU Btw she is now 26 and i think her parents are warming up to the idea of her getting married :| I understand all your comments and agree but i also forgot to mention that she has a great resemblance to me - hair colour and style, eyes, figure and sometimes i cant help but feel that that's why he is with me :(
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he very obviously has feelings for her, but that is quite natural...for a person to always have feelings for their first love, especially if it was serious enough to get to engagement. the thing you need to be concerned about is what if anything he intends to do about his feelings. if she is currently available, there is a chance he will want to get back with her if she is open to that, but there is still the problem with her parents, which i assume did not just go away. i think it is far more likely that he realizes that she did not love him enough to find a way to be with him and that may hurt him for now. seeing her again may be hard for him and may reawaken some strong emotions, but if she is still not willing to be with him, it will all be for nothing. what you need to decide is whether or not you are willing to wait for him to work through all of this and wait for the day when this relationship is properly relegated to his past and left there. it will die a natural death eventually, but that may take time and patience on your part. if you feel your relationship with him is worth it, then hang on. if not, move on. it is up to you. in a perfect world, the person we love will love us back just as much and as strongly as we love them and neither of us will have any emotions or feelings left over for other people from our past, but we do not live in a perfect world, and people are complex and emotions, especially for guys, die hard. the reason i say "especially for guys" is because for some reason men have less defensive ablities to ward of the emotion and pain of a failed relationship than women do, so once they have committed to a love relationship with a woman, it is hard for them to let it go if it is the woman who initiates the break up...perhaps it is related to male pride, i don't know. i just know that it is what it is. as for attending the wedding, well that is up to you. but if it were me, i would go and show your bf that you are a strong and capable woman who has no fears and no insecurities just because of an ex...even if she is drop dead gorgeous.
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Oh My Gosh, i feel soooo bad for you. Ok well it seems like he still has some feelings for Sandy and im not going to tell you what to do with your relationship but you should follow your heart, if you still love him and he loves you , you should stay with him. If you can trust him not doing anything with Sandra you should be fine. and I would act normal around Sandy, dont freak out or anything. But if your bf starts acting like he likes sandy more than a friend i would start freaking out. hope this helps!
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It sounds like he never REALLY got over her, but keep in mind them being friends before hand. He did want to marry her, but it also sounds like he wants you because he can't have her, but he will more than likely never have her, so I wouldn't worry. As far as the letter goes, he probably saves it as a reminder of her, but your letters he doesn't have to keep because he has you, and I'm sure, from what you say, he loves you. It'll probably be good to meet her and you might even whined up friends. When you meet her, just say that he has spoken fondly about her and that you like to get to know her better. That's always a great starter line for this situation, in which I have been in. Remember that saying, keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer. Well, it's true and it does help in relationships. If you love him you'll befriend her. Some changes are required in a relationship, even difficult ones.
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Let me tell you what my future mother in law told me. My fiance has a childhood family friend that he used to like. They had major crushes on each other growing up. When I found out she was coming over to his house with her parents (I was there), I couldn't take it and stayed in his room with the door locked the entire time. I told my future mil that I would punch her in the face if I saw her, lol. She sat me down, and told me this. "He only has eyes for you. You must accept that this girl is a part of his life, and she will not go away. She is a family friend, and her parents are among my best friends. Your boyfriend has known her since they were in diapers. She is a part of his past, and you cannot erase that no matter how hard you try. Your life would be a whole lot easier if you could just accept that. Tomorrow, she is coming with our family to the festival. You CANNOT let her know that she's get to you, or you show your insecurities. If you want to be the mature one, you will politely say hello and introduce yourself and leave it at that. Let her know that you are secure in your relationship, and that her and your boyfriend's past does not bother you in the least, because you know he's all yours now." That changed everything for me. It turns out, later on that night, my boyfriend at the time proposed to me!!! So you can imagine the smile on my face when I shook that girl's hand with the hand that I had my ring on. ;) I'm not going to answer the question "does he still have feelings for her?" Only you know the answer to that question. Even if he does have feelings for her, give yourself more credit! You've been his ONLY one for the past three years, and you aren't going anywhere anytime soon. In other words, as insecure you are about this girl, she feels just as insecure about you as well. What I mean is you say she's "absolutely gorgeous" and I'm sure she's probably saying something like "he must love her if he's been with her for that long..." Get me? You both are insecure when it comes to the other. You are better than that, and you are better than her. Show her that. Smile, shake her hand, introduce yourself. Act as if you have no reason in the world to be worried about her, and that will make her the insecure one. Hold your boyfriend's hand and don't show any signs of jealousy, and don't be all over your boyfriend either. Have a nice balance. Hold his hand, smile at him, laugh at his jokes. You want to come across to her like you two are happier than ever, and that you have no reason to worry about her whatsoever. At least that's what I did, and it worked out for me well. I wish you good luck hun, I can only imagine how difficult this is xx
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Tuesday, September 14, 2010
My bf still loves his ex HELP?
My bf still loves his ex HELP?
I think my bf still love his ex fiance HELP!!!? Well to start off with, let me tell you a bit about us. Im 23 hes 33. we've been dating for 3 years and have a pretty good relationship, i love him and i believe he loves me too. However there is one thing standing in my way of taking the next step. HIS EX FIANCE! It all started when we began to get to know each other closer after about 3-4 months dating, we spoke about our exes as you normally do, however he took it to the next level. He told me he once got engaged to his family friend. She was the love of his life and he loved her since they were little kids. He told me that the reason they didn't go through with it, was because of her parents who thought she was too young (17 at the time) and too good for him. He then told me about how gorgeous she was, how much I HAD HER EYES and how he used to go across the country to just see her (she lives in london but were from australia) Then he asked me "If your parents didn't want us to be together would you stay with me?" i thought about it and said "Im sure if we were both in love we could figure something out." Instead of looking relieved he looked upset muttering "guess she didn't love me then ey?" At first i was a bit put out but he assured me it was all in the past. 3 more months went past and i completely forgot about this girl, then one day when looking through his family photos, i saw a photo of her. I didn't know it was her of course and then therefore asked my bf who it was. He looked at the photo and his face instantly changed. I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP OR EXAGGERATING I SWEAR. He looked so in love, he smiled so lovingly and kept staring at the photo. After a couple more seconds without a reply i asked again, he carefully put the photo back in the stack and then said "That's my cousin" I didn't believe him. I just knew it was this girl from the way he held and looked at the photo. I interrogated him and he eventually gave in and told me it was her. I asked him why he had this photo and he said he didn't know it much have been his families. I left it alone after he once again assured me its all in the past. However there were more incidents to come. A year into the relationship we were discussing baby names (joking around) He suggested Sandra, i didn't know the girls name at the time since i wasn't the jealous type i didn't look into it. Later however i found out that HER NAME WAS SANDY. Still i though i was exaggerating and there was nothing to it until it was time to meet the parents. I found out from them that they were extremely fond of her, she was a model and Absolutely gorgeous (I then remembered him mentioning that he would love a gf who's a model). Her photos were also all over the walls because sandra is related to his sisters husband (THANK YOU FOR MENTIONING THAT NOT) Anyway Im the type to always do cutesy things (drawings, letters you know) he always loves them but then quickly misplaces them and they are never to be seen again. I never got angry because i figured boys will be boys however a year and a half in i found a letter from SANDRA hidden in his cupboard. It was a hand made card and dated 5 years from then however it looked like it was brand new, so well kept. My bf got fired from work around then so i let that go and didn't say anything. about a year ago however i snapped when i found out he was using his sisters facebook to contact her. I knew they were talking because i could see from his sisters emails that they were contacting each other. However i couldn't find out what was said as he would delete the evidence. I told him straight out that i had enough of this girl and it was me or her. He immediatley said me, that he was only been nice and he loved me. Ok now today i find out shes coming here from london and staying with his sister (they live 2min from eachother) for 2 months...i have to attend a wedding with her in a week!!! i dont know how to act, i dont know how i want my bf to act. I dont know if i can deal with her been in my life forever! HELP PLEASE! let me know what you think does he sitll have feelings for her? what do you think? should i be nice and pretend like its not awkward???? THANKU to tk, it sounds like you settled for someone that doesn't love you. Don't you feel second best. I mean if its not for love then why is your wife with you? because you treat her better than the other guy? so basically shes just using you, because shes not willing to risk it with the other man she loves, or maybe the other man doesn't want her so she settled for you. That's Truly sad, and no offence but i would rather be with no-one then with someone who loves multiple people and is in love with multiple people at the same time.
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You are simply her replacement. If she would take him back, you would be dumped immediately. The best thing you can do is let him go if that's what he wants. Keep your self-respect and this is the one way you will find out if you are just a replacement for her since he can't have her or if it is you he really loves. No drama, just do it. Give him a hug and let him choose. You win either way. If he comes back to you, he loves you and not her. He he pursues her, you found out now and not years from now. Good luck.
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Well, it could be something there or could be nothing. However, using his sister's fb to contact her is a little deceitful if he has his own fb. if he doesn't have a fb then he could just be using it to keep in touch with her. But you have been together for 3 years, that is a long time to be with somebody if you are in love with somebody else. Also, she lives all the way in London! I would just see how it goes with her being so close. If there is any funny business( i.e. cheating) then you know to just leave the relationship, but don't assume anything. It really could be nothing.
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I like Bethany's answer. The problem is, if he could be with her, he would be. BUT it's obviously not happening for them-- they are not together. So he won't want to lose you. If you do stay with him, I would make him cut off ALL contact with this woman. No facebook, myspace, texting, emailing. He needs to be DONE with her in order to continue on with you. It's only fair to you.
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wow. and i mean...wow. number one, you are a much, much more understanding gf than i ever have been or ever could be. i think everyone has an x in the past they always wonder about..i know i do, but i also know that compared to my husband, he isn't even a flash in the pan. and i would never, ever, ever keep pix or anything around the house....simply out of respect for my current. that said, my mom does have pix of a couple of my x's, but only cuz they were prom pictures and the like, and she refuses to part with them. what his family does is not his fault...but in my opinion the battle lines were drawn when he said what he liked about you was your resemblance to this girl. find someone that worships you....if you are really attatched to this guy, and i guess you must be to put up with all of this crap, wait till the wedding, see how he acts. personally, i would cut and run. just my opinion.
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Sounds like you are pretty upset. Understandable. But here's the deal. What are you really upset about? Are you afraid that he's going to leave you to be with her? Fact is you have a problem. The problem is that you are very jealous. Normal human emotion. However, you need to get past it. If he's going to leave you for her then it's going to happen. From what you have written I don't think that will happen, but it might. Still if it does you can't do anything to stop it so don't get so upset. You are allowing a situation that might not be anything to upset you. That makes it your problem. Now, lets talk about his feelings. You said he loves you and you have been with him for several years. So what if he still loves his ex. People can love more than one person at a time and they can even be in love with more than one person at a time. I've been married for 31 years and my wife is love with another man, but she is still very much in love with me too. Plus, I have her. She's my wife not his. So I don't care that they are in love. I even think it's a beautiful thing. If I were jealous all I'd be doing is harming myself. Well I hope you understand what I'm saying. All you can do is love your boyfriend. Show him your love. Remember that love the feeling is the fruit of love the action. If you show him all the love you can show him and she doesn't, who do you think will get to keep him. LOL. Good luck.
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I think my bf still love his ex fiance HELP!!!? Well to start off with, let me tell you a bit about us. Im 23 hes 33. we've been dating for 3 years and have a pretty good relationship, i love him and i believe he loves me too. However there is one thing standing in my way of taking the next step. HIS EX FIANCE! It all started when we began to get to know each other closer after about 3-4 months dating, we spoke about our exes as you normally do, however he took it to the next level. He told me he once got engaged to his family friend. She was the love of his life and he loved her since they were little kids. He told me that the reason they didn't go through with it, was because of her parents who thought she was too young (17 at the time) and too good for him. He then told me about how gorgeous she was, how much I HAD HER EYES and how he used to go across the country to just see her (she lives in london but were from australia) Then he asked me "If your parents didn't want us to be together would you stay with me?" i thought about it and said "Im sure if we were both in love we could figure something out." Instead of looking relieved he looked upset muttering "guess she didn't love me then ey?" At first i was a bit put out but he assured me it was all in the past. 3 more months went past and i completely forgot about this girl, then one day when looking through his family photos, i saw a photo of her. I didn't know it was her of course and then therefore asked my bf who it was. He looked at the photo and his face instantly changed. I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP OR EXAGGERATING I SWEAR. He looked so in love, he smiled so lovingly and kept staring at the photo. After a couple more seconds without a reply i asked again, he carefully put the photo back in the stack and then said "That's my cousin" I didn't believe him. I just knew it was this girl from the way he held and looked at the photo. I interrogated him and he eventually gave in and told me it was her. I asked him why he had this photo and he said he didn't know it much have been his families. I left it alone after he once again assured me its all in the past. However there were more incidents to come. A year into the relationship we were discussing baby names (joking around) He suggested Sandra, i didn't know the girls name at the time since i wasn't the jealous type i didn't look into it. Later however i found out that HER NAME WAS SANDY. Still i though i was exaggerating and there was nothing to it until it was time to meet the parents. I found out from them that they were extremely fond of her, she was a model and Absolutely gorgeous (I then remembered him mentioning that he would love a gf who's a model). Her photos were also all over the walls because sandra is related to his sisters husband (THANK YOU FOR MENTIONING THAT NOT) Anyway Im the type to always do cutesy things (drawings, letters you know) he always loves them but then quickly misplaces them and they are never to be seen again. I never got angry because i figured boys will be boys however a year and a half in i found a letter from SANDRA hidden in his cupboard. It was a hand made card and dated 5 years from then however it looked like it was brand new, so well kept. My bf got fired from work around then so i let that go and didn't say anything. about a year ago however i snapped when i found out he was using his sisters facebook to contact her. I knew they were talking because i could see from his sisters emails that they were contacting each other. However i couldn't find out what was said as he would delete the evidence. I told him straight out that i had enough of this girl and it was me or her. He immediatley said me, that he was only been nice and he loved me. Ok now today i find out shes coming here from london and staying with his sister (they live 2min from eachother) for 2 months...i have to attend a wedding with her in a week!!! i dont know how to act, i dont know how i want my bf to act. I dont know if i can deal with her been in my life forever! HELP PLEASE! let me know what you think does he sitll have feelings for her? what do you think? should i be nice and pretend like its not awkward???? THANKU to tk, it sounds like you settled for someone that doesn't love you. Don't you feel second best. I mean if its not for love then why is your wife with you? because you treat her better than the other guy? so basically shes just using you, because shes not willing to risk it with the other man she loves, or maybe the other man doesn't want her so she settled for you. That's Truly sad, and no offence but i would rather be with no-one then with someone who loves multiple people and is in love with multiple people at the same time.
Marriage & Divorce - 6 Answers
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You are simply her replacement. If she would take him back, you would be dumped immediately. The best thing you can do is let him go if that's what he wants. Keep your self-respect and this is the one way you will find out if you are just a replacement for her since he can't have her or if it is you he really loves. No drama, just do it. Give him a hug and let him choose. You win either way. If he comes back to you, he loves you and not her. He he pursues her, you found out now and not years from now. Good luck.
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Well, it could be something there or could be nothing. However, using his sister's fb to contact her is a little deceitful if he has his own fb. if he doesn't have a fb then he could just be using it to keep in touch with her. But you have been together for 3 years, that is a long time to be with somebody if you are in love with somebody else. Also, she lives all the way in London! I would just see how it goes with her being so close. If there is any funny business( i.e. cheating) then you know to just leave the relationship, but don't assume anything. It really could be nothing.
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I like Bethany's answer. The problem is, if he could be with her, he would be. BUT it's obviously not happening for them-- they are not together. So he won't want to lose you. If you do stay with him, I would make him cut off ALL contact with this woman. No facebook, myspace, texting, emailing. He needs to be DONE with her in order to continue on with you. It's only fair to you.
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wow. and i mean...wow. number one, you are a much, much more understanding gf than i ever have been or ever could be. i think everyone has an x in the past they always wonder about..i know i do, but i also know that compared to my husband, he isn't even a flash in the pan. and i would never, ever, ever keep pix or anything around the house....simply out of respect for my current. that said, my mom does have pix of a couple of my x's, but only cuz they were prom pictures and the like, and she refuses to part with them. what his family does is not his fault...but in my opinion the battle lines were drawn when he said what he liked about you was your resemblance to this girl. find someone that worships you....if you are really attatched to this guy, and i guess you must be to put up with all of this crap, wait till the wedding, see how he acts. personally, i would cut and run. just my opinion.
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Sounds like you are pretty upset. Understandable. But here's the deal. What are you really upset about? Are you afraid that he's going to leave you to be with her? Fact is you have a problem. The problem is that you are very jealous. Normal human emotion. However, you need to get past it. If he's going to leave you for her then it's going to happen. From what you have written I don't think that will happen, but it might. Still if it does you can't do anything to stop it so don't get so upset. You are allowing a situation that might not be anything to upset you. That makes it your problem. Now, lets talk about his feelings. You said he loves you and you have been with him for several years. So what if he still loves his ex. People can love more than one person at a time and they can even be in love with more than one person at a time. I've been married for 31 years and my wife is love with another man, but she is still very much in love with me too. Plus, I have her. She's my wife not his. So I don't care that they are in love. I even think it's a beautiful thing. If I were jealous all I'd be doing is harming myself. Well I hope you understand what I'm saying. All you can do is love your boyfriend. Show him your love. Remember that love the feeling is the fruit of love the action. If you show him all the love you can show him and she doesn't, who do you think will get to keep him. LOL. Good luck.
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Tuesday, September 7, 2010
I think my bf still love his ex fiance HELP!!!?
I think my bf still love his ex fiance HELP!!!?
Well to start off with, let me tell you a bit about us. Im 23 hes 33. we've been dating for 3 years and have a pretty good relationship, i love him and i believe he loves me too. However there is one thing standing in my way of taking the next step. HIS EX FIANCE! It all started when we began to get to know each other closer after about 3-4 months dating, we spoke about our exes as you normally do, however he took it to the next level. He told me he once got engaged to his family friend. She was the love of his life and he loved her since they were little kids. He told me that the reason they didn't go through with it, was because of her parents who thought she was too young (17 at the time) and too good for him. He then told me about how gorgeous she was, how much I HAD HER EYES and how he used to go across the country to just see her (she lives in london but were from australia) Then he asked me "If your parents didn't want us to be together would you stay with me?" i thought about it and said "Im sure if we were both in love we could figure something out." Instead of looking relieved he looked upset muttering "guess she didn't love me then ey?" At first i was a bit put out but he assured me it was all in the past. 3 more months went past and i completely forgot about this girl, then one day when looking through his family photos, i saw a photo of her. I didn't know it was her of course and then therefore asked my bf who it was. He looked at the photo and his face instantly changed. I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP OR EXAGGERATING I SWEAR. He looked so in love, he smiled so lovingly and kept staring at the photo. After a couple more seconds without a reply i asked again, he carefully put the photo back in the stack and then said "That's my cousin" I didn't believe him. I just knew it was this girl from the way he held and looked at the photo. I interrogated him and he eventually gave in and told me it was her. I asked him why he had this photo and he said he didn't know it much have been his families. I left it alone after he once again assured me its all in the past. However there were more incidents to come. A year into the relationship we were discussing baby names (joking around) He suggested Sandra, i didn't know the girls name at the time since i wasn't the jealous type i didn't look into it. Later however i found out that HER NAME WAS SANDY. Still i though i was exaggerating and there was nothing to it until it was time to meet the parents. I found out from them that they were extremely fond of her, she was a model and Absolutely gorgeous (I then remembered him mentioning that he would love a gf who's a model). Her photos were also all over the walls because sandra is related to his sisters husband (THANK YOU FOR MENTIONING THAT NOT) Anyway Im the type to always do cutesy things (drawings, letters you know) he always loves them but then quickly misplaces them and they are never to be seen again. I never got angry because i figured boys will be boys however a year and a half in i found a letter from SANDRA hidden in his cupboard. It was a hand made card and dated 5 years from then however it looked like it was brand new, so well kept. My bf got fired from work around then so i let that go and didn't say anything. about a year ago however i snapped when i found out he was using his sisters facebook to contact her. I knew they were talking because i could see from his sisters emails that they were contacting each other. However i couldn't find out what was said as he would delete the evidence. I told him straight out that i had enough of this girl and it was me or her. He immediatley said me, that he was only been nice and he loved me. Ok now today i find out shes coming here from london and staying with his sister (they live 2min from eachother) for 2 months...i have to attend a wedding with her in a week!!! i dont know how to act, i dont know how i want my bf to act. I dont know if i can deal with her been in my life forever! HELP PLEASE! let me know what you think does he sitll have feelings for her? what do you think? should i be nice and pretend like its not awkward???? THANKYOUUU rushzapp i have raised the issue up with him so many times, ive wanted to break up over it however he would cry and beg me not to break up with him. its so hard because im getting mixed signals, do you know what this might mean?
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your story sounds like a movie should be made out of it! haha it is hard to let your first love go. however, he needs to realize that you are his future. he should be happy for the memories that he once had with her but needs to see that those are in the past. talk to him. maybe see how he acts around her to see if he still has feelings for her. regardless your going to be worried the whole time she is staying near you. maybe sit down and talk to her, see her side of the story. it is going to be akward, but you need to understand everyones point of view in the situation and see where they all stand. most importantly where you stand in the relationship. she's going to be there for a while, so take your time in getting to know her. make it clear that she is to not be more than friends with her bf and make sure he doesn't want it to ever turn into being more than friends. it needs to be about you and you only. he should care about her but not LOVE her like he does you. good luckk
2 :
It does sound like he has some feelings for her still. Just relax at the wedding, if he wanted her back that badly then he wouldn't still be with you would he?
3 :
ditch him right now. you know in your heart that this will always be an issue. it is like pulling a band aid off, but you have to do it. i was love sick for my first girlfriend. i got engaged to a really nice girl, but i ended up back with my first love and we have been together for 24 years. what it regret is hurting my fiance and not being honest with my own feelings. please don't waste your life trying to make a guy be Mr. Right. there are hundreds of thousands of other guys. you just need to take your blinders off.
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Well to start off with, let me tell you a bit about us. Im 23 hes 33. we've been dating for 3 years and have a pretty good relationship, i love him and i believe he loves me too. However there is one thing standing in my way of taking the next step. HIS EX FIANCE! It all started when we began to get to know each other closer after about 3-4 months dating, we spoke about our exes as you normally do, however he took it to the next level. He told me he once got engaged to his family friend. She was the love of his life and he loved her since they were little kids. He told me that the reason they didn't go through with it, was because of her parents who thought she was too young (17 at the time) and too good for him. He then told me about how gorgeous she was, how much I HAD HER EYES and how he used to go across the country to just see her (she lives in london but were from australia) Then he asked me "If your parents didn't want us to be together would you stay with me?" i thought about it and said "Im sure if we were both in love we could figure something out." Instead of looking relieved he looked upset muttering "guess she didn't love me then ey?" At first i was a bit put out but he assured me it was all in the past. 3 more months went past and i completely forgot about this girl, then one day when looking through his family photos, i saw a photo of her. I didn't know it was her of course and then therefore asked my bf who it was. He looked at the photo and his face instantly changed. I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP OR EXAGGERATING I SWEAR. He looked so in love, he smiled so lovingly and kept staring at the photo. After a couple more seconds without a reply i asked again, he carefully put the photo back in the stack and then said "That's my cousin" I didn't believe him. I just knew it was this girl from the way he held and looked at the photo. I interrogated him and he eventually gave in and told me it was her. I asked him why he had this photo and he said he didn't know it much have been his families. I left it alone after he once again assured me its all in the past. However there were more incidents to come. A year into the relationship we were discussing baby names (joking around) He suggested Sandra, i didn't know the girls name at the time since i wasn't the jealous type i didn't look into it. Later however i found out that HER NAME WAS SANDY. Still i though i was exaggerating and there was nothing to it until it was time to meet the parents. I found out from them that they were extremely fond of her, she was a model and Absolutely gorgeous (I then remembered him mentioning that he would love a gf who's a model). Her photos were also all over the walls because sandra is related to his sisters husband (THANK YOU FOR MENTIONING THAT NOT) Anyway Im the type to always do cutesy things (drawings, letters you know) he always loves them but then quickly misplaces them and they are never to be seen again. I never got angry because i figured boys will be boys however a year and a half in i found a letter from SANDRA hidden in his cupboard. It was a hand made card and dated 5 years from then however it looked like it was brand new, so well kept. My bf got fired from work around then so i let that go and didn't say anything. about a year ago however i snapped when i found out he was using his sisters facebook to contact her. I knew they were talking because i could see from his sisters emails that they were contacting each other. However i couldn't find out what was said as he would delete the evidence. I told him straight out that i had enough of this girl and it was me or her. He immediatley said me, that he was only been nice and he loved me. Ok now today i find out shes coming here from london and staying with his sister (they live 2min from eachother) for 2 months...i have to attend a wedding with her in a week!!! i dont know how to act, i dont know how i want my bf to act. I dont know if i can deal with her been in my life forever! HELP PLEASE! let me know what you think does he sitll have feelings for her? what do you think? should i be nice and pretend like its not awkward???? THANKYOUUU rushzapp i have raised the issue up with him so many times, ive wanted to break up over it however he would cry and beg me not to break up with him. its so hard because im getting mixed signals, do you know what this might mean?
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your story sounds like a movie should be made out of it! haha it is hard to let your first love go. however, he needs to realize that you are his future. he should be happy for the memories that he once had with her but needs to see that those are in the past. talk to him. maybe see how he acts around her to see if he still has feelings for her. regardless your going to be worried the whole time she is staying near you. maybe sit down and talk to her, see her side of the story. it is going to be akward, but you need to understand everyones point of view in the situation and see where they all stand. most importantly where you stand in the relationship. she's going to be there for a while, so take your time in getting to know her. make it clear that she is to not be more than friends with her bf and make sure he doesn't want it to ever turn into being more than friends. it needs to be about you and you only. he should care about her but not LOVE her like he does you. good luckk
2 :
It does sound like he has some feelings for her still. Just relax at the wedding, if he wanted her back that badly then he wouldn't still be with you would he?
3 :
ditch him right now. you know in your heart that this will always be an issue. it is like pulling a band aid off, but you have to do it. i was love sick for my first girlfriend. i got engaged to a really nice girl, but i ended up back with my first love and we have been together for 24 years. what it regret is hurting my fiance and not being honest with my own feelings. please don't waste your life trying to make a guy be Mr. Right. there are hundreds of thousands of other guys. you just need to take your blinders off.
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Wednesday, September 1, 2010
I'm looking for ways to combat this trend?
I'm looking for ways to combat this trend?
Your comments will be more than appreciated: How the faceless and amoral world of cyberspace has created a deeply disturbing... generation SEX By Olivia Lichtenstein Last updated at 8:12 AM on 28th January 2009 Remember that Hilaire Belloc cautionary tale - Matilda told such dreadful lies, it made one gasp and stretch one’s eyes? I used to love it as a child when telling lies was one of the naughtiest things you could do: Matilda ended up getting burned to death. These days, however, everything has changed and it’s the truths that children tell that make one gasp and stretch one’s eyes. A couple of years ago, my daughter Francesca, then aged 13, told me about a party she had been to one Saturday night. Insight: Olivia (left) and daughter Francesca In the course of the evening, she came upon one of her friends, also aged 13, performing oral sex on a boy in the garden. The boy was standing and videoing the event on his mobile phone. My daughter, in whom the feisty gene has always found strong expression, pulled her friend off the boy, knocked the phone out of his hand and slapped him round the face. I apologise for shocking you, but then there are a number of things shocking about this event: the casual nature in which such an intimate act is performed in public, the young age of the participants and last, but by no means least, the fact that it is being filmed. This not only signals the boy’s disassociation from the physical experience, it also indicates his intention to replay the event and, no doubt, to share his triumph with his friends as one might brandish a trophy above one’s head for all to see. Reality TV has a lot to answer for Nor was this the only such event on this particular evening. I am no prude, but Francesca painted a picture of Bacchanalia that certainly made me gasp. That week at school, when conducting a post mortem of their weekend as teenagers do (and always have done), the girls at her then school (she’s since moved), a private girls’ school in London, exclaimed: ‘Hurrah, now we’re more slutty than Slutney’, the affectionate nickname of another school. Call me old-fashioned, but when I was a gal, sluttishness was not a condition one aspired to. That year, they were all dressing in Hooters T-shirts (the uniform of the well-endowed waitresses of a U.S. restaurant chain whose slogan ‘delightfully tacky yet unrefined’ sums up its approach) and buttock-skimming shorts. They looked, as girls so often do, far older than their 13 years and not unlike the Playboy Bunnies who incensed a generation of feminists. (Interestingly, clothing depicting the distinctive Playboy bunny is highly popular now among teenage girls.) When one considers our society, it’s no surprise that our children have lost all sense of modesty. Reality check: TV's Skins glamorises teenage promiscuity Not only do social networking sites such as Facebook, MySpace and Bebo encourage teens to share information about themselves; but when they are not taking their clothes off, their role models are spilling their guts about their ‘private’ lives all over the pages of every national newspaper, magazine and on television. We have an immoderate interest in the private lives of perfect strangers. Pop stars such as Amy Winehouse and Britney Spears expose the car crash that is their life for all to see. Jordan, who won fame by revealing her breasts, has a documentary series where she and her husband, Peter Andre, discuss their sex life (or lack of it) in intimate detail. The Osbournes revealed all for our entertainment in their television series. Was this extraordinary exposure responsible in part for the subsequent drug and alcohol abuse of the two of their children who participated? One can’t help feeling it might have been. Their third child, Amy, wisely chose to stay out of the limelight. Whatever its exponents may say, reality television has a lot to answer for. I have been a documentary film-maker for more than two decades and am well aware of the power of the medium. Today’s teenagers are starring in the reality show of their own lives and doing all they can to make it as dramatic as possible. Where before mistakes we made when young - excessive drinking, acts of promiscuity - were quietly forgotten, now they are recorded and broadcast on the internet for all to see. From happy slapping to amateur sex videos (Paris Hilton rose to fame when a shamelessly intimate video of her and her boyfriend found its way on to the internet, a reality TV show followed, and the rest, as they say, is history). Do these girls even know what feminism is? The sexualisation of our young is ubiquitous: boys caught cheating on their girlfriends on mobile phones, ritual humiliation and worse by YouTube (In February 2008, a gang of London teenagers aged 14-16 drugged and raped a woman in front of her children and then posted the film of the attac
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ftake your daughter to a TRinity church with you at least once a month or more....set a good example....speak to her about right and wrong....read the Bible and help her to learn it too....OOO
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I wish there was a way to combat the trend. Girls are doing all these promiscuous acts for the attention. What they don't realize is that they're attracting attention from the wrong kind of guys. Guys who don't hold a door for a lady, who often have one-night stands, who cheat, who lie. These are not gentlemen they attract. Real gentlemen are not impressed by sexual deviancy. And this kind of behavior hits the boys just as hard. They're taught to mistreat women and do whatever it takes to get sexual relief from them. It's disgusting. And this only gets worse in college. College can be one of the sleaziest places in the world. Underage drinking mixed with being away for the first time can have horrible consequences. You have to instill self-respect into your child at a young age. Teach them about sexual deviancy and its consequences. Most of all, give them a role-model, which is hard to find in this day of drugs and artists being synonymous. It takes boys and girls with strong spirits to swim against this trend. It takes a lot of self-respect. It's worth it.
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Your comments will be more than appreciated: How the faceless and amoral world of cyberspace has created a deeply disturbing... generation SEX By Olivia Lichtenstein Last updated at 8:12 AM on 28th January 2009 Remember that Hilaire Belloc cautionary tale - Matilda told such dreadful lies, it made one gasp and stretch one’s eyes? I used to love it as a child when telling lies was one of the naughtiest things you could do: Matilda ended up getting burned to death. These days, however, everything has changed and it’s the truths that children tell that make one gasp and stretch one’s eyes. A couple of years ago, my daughter Francesca, then aged 13, told me about a party she had been to one Saturday night. Insight: Olivia (left) and daughter Francesca In the course of the evening, she came upon one of her friends, also aged 13, performing oral sex on a boy in the garden. The boy was standing and videoing the event on his mobile phone. My daughter, in whom the feisty gene has always found strong expression, pulled her friend off the boy, knocked the phone out of his hand and slapped him round the face. I apologise for shocking you, but then there are a number of things shocking about this event: the casual nature in which such an intimate act is performed in public, the young age of the participants and last, but by no means least, the fact that it is being filmed. This not only signals the boy’s disassociation from the physical experience, it also indicates his intention to replay the event and, no doubt, to share his triumph with his friends as one might brandish a trophy above one’s head for all to see. Reality TV has a lot to answer for Nor was this the only such event on this particular evening. I am no prude, but Francesca painted a picture of Bacchanalia that certainly made me gasp. That week at school, when conducting a post mortem of their weekend as teenagers do (and always have done), the girls at her then school (she’s since moved), a private girls’ school in London, exclaimed: ‘Hurrah, now we’re more slutty than Slutney’, the affectionate nickname of another school. Call me old-fashioned, but when I was a gal, sluttishness was not a condition one aspired to. That year, they were all dressing in Hooters T-shirts (the uniform of the well-endowed waitresses of a U.S. restaurant chain whose slogan ‘delightfully tacky yet unrefined’ sums up its approach) and buttock-skimming shorts. They looked, as girls so often do, far older than their 13 years and not unlike the Playboy Bunnies who incensed a generation of feminists. (Interestingly, clothing depicting the distinctive Playboy bunny is highly popular now among teenage girls.) When one considers our society, it’s no surprise that our children have lost all sense of modesty. Reality check: TV's Skins glamorises teenage promiscuity Not only do social networking sites such as Facebook, MySpace and Bebo encourage teens to share information about themselves; but when they are not taking their clothes off, their role models are spilling their guts about their ‘private’ lives all over the pages of every national newspaper, magazine and on television. We have an immoderate interest in the private lives of perfect strangers. Pop stars such as Amy Winehouse and Britney Spears expose the car crash that is their life for all to see. Jordan, who won fame by revealing her breasts, has a documentary series where she and her husband, Peter Andre, discuss their sex life (or lack of it) in intimate detail. The Osbournes revealed all for our entertainment in their television series. Was this extraordinary exposure responsible in part for the subsequent drug and alcohol abuse of the two of their children who participated? One can’t help feeling it might have been. Their third child, Amy, wisely chose to stay out of the limelight. Whatever its exponents may say, reality television has a lot to answer for. I have been a documentary film-maker for more than two decades and am well aware of the power of the medium. Today’s teenagers are starring in the reality show of their own lives and doing all they can to make it as dramatic as possible. Where before mistakes we made when young - excessive drinking, acts of promiscuity - were quietly forgotten, now they are recorded and broadcast on the internet for all to see. From happy slapping to amateur sex videos (Paris Hilton rose to fame when a shamelessly intimate video of her and her boyfriend found its way on to the internet, a reality TV show followed, and the rest, as they say, is history). Do these girls even know what feminism is? The sexualisation of our young is ubiquitous: boys caught cheating on their girlfriends on mobile phones, ritual humiliation and worse by YouTube (In February 2008, a gang of London teenagers aged 14-16 drugged and raped a woman in front of her children and then posted the film of the attac
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ftake your daughter to a TRinity church with you at least once a month or more....set a good example....speak to her about right and wrong....read the Bible and help her to learn it too....OOO
2 :
tobe_new@yahoo.com
3 :
I wish there was a way to combat the trend. Girls are doing all these promiscuous acts for the attention. What they don't realize is that they're attracting attention from the wrong kind of guys. Guys who don't hold a door for a lady, who often have one-night stands, who cheat, who lie. These are not gentlemen they attract. Real gentlemen are not impressed by sexual deviancy. And this kind of behavior hits the boys just as hard. They're taught to mistreat women and do whatever it takes to get sexual relief from them. It's disgusting. And this only gets worse in college. College can be one of the sleaziest places in the world. Underage drinking mixed with being away for the first time can have horrible consequences. You have to instill self-respect into your child at a young age. Teach them about sexual deviancy and its consequences. Most of all, give them a role-model, which is hard to find in this day of drugs and artists being synonymous. It takes boys and girls with strong spirits to swim against this trend. It takes a lot of self-respect. It's worth it.
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Saturday, August 28, 2010
How do I get my phone back?
How do I get my phone back?
earlier this year I really went 'off the rails' I was drinking, sneaking out and just generally getting involved with the wrong crowd. Then about four months ago, my parents took my phone and computer and put all these rules down to make me behave. It's been four months and I've got my computer back, some of my freedom and a little respect. but still no phone. ----EXAMPLES---- [you dont need to read them all] It sucks and is just REALLY annoying. Like friday night I went to see a movie with my friends and during the night, my dad was texting all my friends to discuss how i was getting home [he cant drive atm] but i'd already arranged for someone to take me home. In the end [thanks to all his messing] three different people -including my mom- were all waiting outside to take me home. If my dad had just been able to call me, I could've told him I was being taken how by my friend, and I'd be back before 11. Or on saturday night, it was my friends birthday, so about 10 of us girls went out for pizza. then at the end everyone had gone home and her parents were waiting an extra 45mintues after everyone had left to make sure I wasn't there by myself. My mom had fallen asleep and the only reason she came is because I borrowed my friends phone and called her and was like "um, sorry mom but everyones gone - can you pick me up like now?" I literally don't talk to anyone outside school [my parents deleted my facebook] and its pretty hard for me to get invited out anywhere because whenever i ask why i wasn't invited its because "we couldnt contact you to ask you". The only time I talk to someone outside of school is if i call them. and thats pretty hard because all the numbers are on my phone. I've lost all my friends outside of school because I dont talk to them anymore. ---EXAMPLES--- I know I did wrong, but I really need my phone. And four months is a long time - I've learnt my lesson! Since I got caught, i dont hang out with anyone outside school. and i literally NEED my phone back. Summer is coming up [two weeks] adn my dad cant drive atm, so I'm gonna be taking rides with friends or using public transport a lot. I'm moving to victoria at the end of summer, so i intend on spending all summer at the beach with my friends. I'm even considering asking for my phone for my birthday [december 15th]. my dad said i can have my phone back january 1st. but im spending nearly the whole of january in london, so its not like i can use it anyway. Do you think if i tell my dad he can check my phone every night and check my bill? Thanks xx p.s. i'm 14...nearly 15.
Adolescent - 3 Answers
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1 :
I think that you should tell your dad that yes, you were wrong when you sneaked out and partied, but that honestly if he gave you back the phone then he would have more control over you. (Not exactly true but it does make a good point.) You should tell him these examples, but remember to also put in not just good things about getting back the phone, but show that you were wrong because honestly it will look a bit strange if having a phone is all 100% good. Say that he can check on you when he wants, see who you're with and be much safer in general and arrangements would be simpler. Good Luck!
2 :
You're not hanging out with friends who aren't from school, and you'll be in London soon anyway, so why do you need the phone? You're just addicted to it or you want to contact those people who got you in trouble again. Looks like your dad is hard core and won't relent until January 1st. Good for him!
3 :
You should tell them what you just wrote to us... And add that it will be a lot easier to comunicate w/ them and let them know where you are if you have a phone... :)
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earlier this year I really went 'off the rails' I was drinking, sneaking out and just generally getting involved with the wrong crowd. Then about four months ago, my parents took my phone and computer and put all these rules down to make me behave. It's been four months and I've got my computer back, some of my freedom and a little respect. but still no phone. ----EXAMPLES---- [you dont need to read them all] It sucks and is just REALLY annoying. Like friday night I went to see a movie with my friends and during the night, my dad was texting all my friends to discuss how i was getting home [he cant drive atm] but i'd already arranged for someone to take me home. In the end [thanks to all his messing] three different people -including my mom- were all waiting outside to take me home. If my dad had just been able to call me, I could've told him I was being taken how by my friend, and I'd be back before 11. Or on saturday night, it was my friends birthday, so about 10 of us girls went out for pizza. then at the end everyone had gone home and her parents were waiting an extra 45mintues after everyone had left to make sure I wasn't there by myself. My mom had fallen asleep and the only reason she came is because I borrowed my friends phone and called her and was like "um, sorry mom but everyones gone - can you pick me up like now?" I literally don't talk to anyone outside school [my parents deleted my facebook] and its pretty hard for me to get invited out anywhere because whenever i ask why i wasn't invited its because "we couldnt contact you to ask you". The only time I talk to someone outside of school is if i call them. and thats pretty hard because all the numbers are on my phone. I've lost all my friends outside of school because I dont talk to them anymore. ---EXAMPLES--- I know I did wrong, but I really need my phone. And four months is a long time - I've learnt my lesson! Since I got caught, i dont hang out with anyone outside school. and i literally NEED my phone back. Summer is coming up [two weeks] adn my dad cant drive atm, so I'm gonna be taking rides with friends or using public transport a lot. I'm moving to victoria at the end of summer, so i intend on spending all summer at the beach with my friends. I'm even considering asking for my phone for my birthday [december 15th]. my dad said i can have my phone back january 1st. but im spending nearly the whole of january in london, so its not like i can use it anyway. Do you think if i tell my dad he can check my phone every night and check my bill? Thanks xx p.s. i'm 14...nearly 15.
Adolescent - 3 Answers
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1 :
I think that you should tell your dad that yes, you were wrong when you sneaked out and partied, but that honestly if he gave you back the phone then he would have more control over you. (Not exactly true but it does make a good point.) You should tell him these examples, but remember to also put in not just good things about getting back the phone, but show that you were wrong because honestly it will look a bit strange if having a phone is all 100% good. Say that he can check on you when he wants, see who you're with and be much safer in general and arrangements would be simpler. Good Luck!
2 :
You're not hanging out with friends who aren't from school, and you'll be in London soon anyway, so why do you need the phone? You're just addicted to it or you want to contact those people who got you in trouble again. Looks like your dad is hard core and won't relent until January 1st. Good for him!
3 :
You should tell them what you just wrote to us... And add that it will be a lot easier to comunicate w/ them and let them know where you are if you have a phone... :)
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Saturday, August 14, 2010
Should I cut her out of my life or get revenge?
Should I cut her out of my life or get revenge?
well me and my "friend" applied for britain's got talent together almost a year ago (she goes to my old school) and we put down my address, i got both our letters saying we were accepted to audition in london on 21st of this month and i told her and i was really excited and i asked her when she was free to practise and she txt me saying "can i see the letter first because im not sure wether to beleive you or not" we had a huge fight and i told her if thats wat she thinks about me i'll do it on my own, and she said "if you put a picture of the letter on facebook i'll beleive you" so i did, and she apologised, but the next day (yesturday) she started sending me nasty texts saying "you had no right to open my letter you stupid cow!" and stuff like that, and demanding her letter because "she doesn't need me". I didn't reply, and i don't want to send her the letter because I know she'll try to audition solo and we only have one time slot between us, so we can't both audition solo, and I was encouraged by my singing teacher to audition, and i was willing to do it with her until she started acting like this. Well today she started posting crap on my facebook and I replied saying "you're so pathetc I actually pity you. Grow up and maybe when you're mature enough we can discuss this." before blocking her. Should I cut her out of my life completely, or get revenge?
Friends - 6 Answers
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Cut her out and dont give her the letter and go by yourself. Thats what I would do.
2 :
Try to work it out.
3 :
Cut her out of your life. She sounds like a selfish, hateful, pathetic b[tch.
4 :
well you only have one time slot between you so it will either be you or her. In this world we do to much worrying about other people and their feelings. I would go but i would mail her letter to her hoping that it gets delayed. yes cut her because if you happen to win she seems like the type of person that will drag you through the mud to make herself look like she was the reason you won. She doens't sound like a team player. get rid of her but don't seek revenge. be the better person, remember revenge is always a two way street. what you do today will double on its way back to you.
5 :
I would just completely ignore her. Block her and everything shes not a nice person. Try to pretend she never happened. ( Thats almost the best revenge to!!!)
6 :
I would just not talk to her. I think it was petty of her to attack you and call you a liar. If she was your friend she wouldn't have questioned you. I would just go by myself to the audition
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well me and my "friend" applied for britain's got talent together almost a year ago (she goes to my old school) and we put down my address, i got both our letters saying we were accepted to audition in london on 21st of this month and i told her and i was really excited and i asked her when she was free to practise and she txt me saying "can i see the letter first because im not sure wether to beleive you or not" we had a huge fight and i told her if thats wat she thinks about me i'll do it on my own, and she said "if you put a picture of the letter on facebook i'll beleive you" so i did, and she apologised, but the next day (yesturday) she started sending me nasty texts saying "you had no right to open my letter you stupid cow!" and stuff like that, and demanding her letter because "she doesn't need me". I didn't reply, and i don't want to send her the letter because I know she'll try to audition solo and we only have one time slot between us, so we can't both audition solo, and I was encouraged by my singing teacher to audition, and i was willing to do it with her until she started acting like this. Well today she started posting crap on my facebook and I replied saying "you're so pathetc I actually pity you. Grow up and maybe when you're mature enough we can discuss this." before blocking her. Should I cut her out of my life completely, or get revenge?
Friends - 6 Answers
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1 :
Cut her out and dont give her the letter and go by yourself. Thats what I would do.
2 :
Try to work it out.
3 :
Cut her out of your life. She sounds like a selfish, hateful, pathetic b[tch.
4 :
well you only have one time slot between you so it will either be you or her. In this world we do to much worrying about other people and their feelings. I would go but i would mail her letter to her hoping that it gets delayed. yes cut her because if you happen to win she seems like the type of person that will drag you through the mud to make herself look like she was the reason you won. She doens't sound like a team player. get rid of her but don't seek revenge. be the better person, remember revenge is always a two way street. what you do today will double on its way back to you.
5 :
I would just completely ignore her. Block her and everything shes not a nice person. Try to pretend she never happened. ( Thats almost the best revenge to!!!)
6 :
I would just not talk to her. I think it was petty of her to attack you and call you a liar. If she was your friend she wouldn't have questioned you. I would just go by myself to the audition
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Saturday, August 7, 2010
Please I need advice read below and give your opinion thanks!?
Please I need advice read below and give your opinion thanks!?
I left Nigeria 15 years ago and presently reside in London. Before leaving Lagos Nigeria I use to work in an office and I knew a lady colleague whom I use to tell all my problems and worries at that time as I use to chat too about my private life to her but I realized that she never use to tell me anything about herself which I believe is normal. I discussed this with my husband of recent and he told me that wherever you work you should never make friends in an office. I also realised to make friends with someone it takes several years to understand someone before they can become your friend as it is not because you meet someone of new and chat with them that they are your friends. I as an African noticed during my years in Nigeria people tend to chat with some people they do not know very well but later they drifat apart. As I am much older and wiser I study individuals and try not to chat too much with a person on the first day as I realised that it is not because you chat with them that they are nice people. Two weeks ago I received facebook email from my lady colleague of 15 years ago to whom I replied. I replied her via email and exchanged telephone numbers and email addresses but I was not very excited nor enthusiastic. At present I am not very enthusiastic about her nor am I keen on seeing her because it has been 15 years ago I saw her last. I would like to know is this normal. Oneday she telephone me as I politely told her not to phone me as it is expensive that we could communicate via email to which she agreed. As I know people in tropical countries like to chat too much on the phone. Last week I checked my voicemail and listened to her message as she wanted to know how I was doing. Several days later I returned her call and during our discussion I noticed she really did not have much to discuss with me as I was the one doing all the talking resulting to wasting my spare change. As I will be travelling to Lagos I will be forced to pay her a visit. I asked her if I could come to visit her in her office to which replied "yes". As I would be staying in a hotel I would like to know Should I invite her for lunch. I would not like to her ask her if I can come to her house unless she invites me as it her privacy. On meeting her should I talk less about myself? Should I watch her body language to know if she is feeling comfortable with me? She claims she is my friend but I know she is not a friend but a colleague. Tell me? Someone you have forgotten about after 15 years agos are they still your friend old acquaintances or platonic people.
Books & Authors - 3 Answers
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1 :
Hit it and quit it.
2 :
Maybe the people in the society/culture section will be able to answer your question better...
3 :
Many people in the spiritual community believe that we each are part of "soul groups" or "soul families" that we have spent many lives with, in varying roles. You are wise to be cautious about this situation... 15 years is a long time. I've known people who were separated at birth, adopted into different families and the re-met several years later as adults. The connection was there, even after the separation of years, but each had grown up in different environments so it was kind of like getting to know a brand new friend. You are much more intuitive than you give yourself credit for and it's important that you trust that. Meeting at her office is actually a great idea. You didn't mention if your trip was business or pleasure but if your initial meeting with her feels "off", trust that. I'm not saying to lie but perhaps you can ensure that your itinerary while there is full, with little time left over to do much but sleep. I sense that she really needs you and I think she is sincere is rekindling your friendship. I know, 15 years without a word is a long time. Hopefully, you parted on reasonably good terms. You had to have made a big impact if she is contacting you after such a long time and it is understandable that you would feel apprehensive. I have a feeling that she needs your strength and support. I'm not saying to disregard how you feel but perhaps consider that the Creator has arranged this for a purpose and could well be an opportunity to assist another soul on their journey. If you're having difficulty with resistance to seeing her, because she hasn't contacted you sooner, I will make a suggestion that has helped me. In your evening prayers, include a request to God for a special blessing on her. It sounds simple and stupid at the same time to some people but I have seen the results of doing this in my own life. I have seen people begin treating me very differently once I began to ask for a special blessing on them. It works for me and I wanted to suggest that you consider it as well. It essentially sets very positive energy in place and asks for a little help from God as well. Another consideration is that this may be an opportunity to establish a new type of friendship. Each of you have had many years apart, where you have gone through your own trials and lessons and you are not the same people as you were 15 years ago. If this is something that you want, pursue it. If your initial meeting feels "off" to you, go with that and don't pursue it. You are not obligated to carry the conversation so you may want to write some questions down about her beforehand to ask her. Sorry, I'm not much help here but I hope it provided some assistance, in some way.
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I left Nigeria 15 years ago and presently reside in London. Before leaving Lagos Nigeria I use to work in an office and I knew a lady colleague whom I use to tell all my problems and worries at that time as I use to chat too about my private life to her but I realized that she never use to tell me anything about herself which I believe is normal. I discussed this with my husband of recent and he told me that wherever you work you should never make friends in an office. I also realised to make friends with someone it takes several years to understand someone before they can become your friend as it is not because you meet someone of new and chat with them that they are your friends. I as an African noticed during my years in Nigeria people tend to chat with some people they do not know very well but later they drifat apart. As I am much older and wiser I study individuals and try not to chat too much with a person on the first day as I realised that it is not because you chat with them that they are nice people. Two weeks ago I received facebook email from my lady colleague of 15 years ago to whom I replied. I replied her via email and exchanged telephone numbers and email addresses but I was not very excited nor enthusiastic. At present I am not very enthusiastic about her nor am I keen on seeing her because it has been 15 years ago I saw her last. I would like to know is this normal. Oneday she telephone me as I politely told her not to phone me as it is expensive that we could communicate via email to which she agreed. As I know people in tropical countries like to chat too much on the phone. Last week I checked my voicemail and listened to her message as she wanted to know how I was doing. Several days later I returned her call and during our discussion I noticed she really did not have much to discuss with me as I was the one doing all the talking resulting to wasting my spare change. As I will be travelling to Lagos I will be forced to pay her a visit. I asked her if I could come to visit her in her office to which replied "yes". As I would be staying in a hotel I would like to know Should I invite her for lunch. I would not like to her ask her if I can come to her house unless she invites me as it her privacy. On meeting her should I talk less about myself? Should I watch her body language to know if she is feeling comfortable with me? She claims she is my friend but I know she is not a friend but a colleague. Tell me? Someone you have forgotten about after 15 years agos are they still your friend old acquaintances or platonic people.
Books & Authors - 3 Answers
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1 :
Hit it and quit it.
2 :
Maybe the people in the society/culture section will be able to answer your question better...
3 :
Many people in the spiritual community believe that we each are part of "soul groups" or "soul families" that we have spent many lives with, in varying roles. You are wise to be cautious about this situation... 15 years is a long time. I've known people who were separated at birth, adopted into different families and the re-met several years later as adults. The connection was there, even after the separation of years, but each had grown up in different environments so it was kind of like getting to know a brand new friend. You are much more intuitive than you give yourself credit for and it's important that you trust that. Meeting at her office is actually a great idea. You didn't mention if your trip was business or pleasure but if your initial meeting with her feels "off", trust that. I'm not saying to lie but perhaps you can ensure that your itinerary while there is full, with little time left over to do much but sleep. I sense that she really needs you and I think she is sincere is rekindling your friendship. I know, 15 years without a word is a long time. Hopefully, you parted on reasonably good terms. You had to have made a big impact if she is contacting you after such a long time and it is understandable that you would feel apprehensive. I have a feeling that she needs your strength and support. I'm not saying to disregard how you feel but perhaps consider that the Creator has arranged this for a purpose and could well be an opportunity to assist another soul on their journey. If you're having difficulty with resistance to seeing her, because she hasn't contacted you sooner, I will make a suggestion that has helped me. In your evening prayers, include a request to God for a special blessing on her. It sounds simple and stupid at the same time to some people but I have seen the results of doing this in my own life. I have seen people begin treating me very differently once I began to ask for a special blessing on them. It works for me and I wanted to suggest that you consider it as well. It essentially sets very positive energy in place and asks for a little help from God as well. Another consideration is that this may be an opportunity to establish a new type of friendship. Each of you have had many years apart, where you have gone through your own trials and lessons and you are not the same people as you were 15 years ago. If this is something that you want, pursue it. If your initial meeting feels "off" to you, go with that and don't pursue it. You are not obligated to carry the conversation so you may want to write some questions down about her beforehand to ask her. Sorry, I'm not much help here but I hope it provided some assistance, in some way.
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Sunday, August 1, 2010
Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
Does my new boyfriend still love his ex?
He moved over to london from Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
Friends - 7 Answers
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1 :
Honestly he just wants a piece of ass on the side without his girl friend finding out. Holding doors and being a gentleman just means he really wants yours. I say tell him you just want to be friends then and see what he does. If he wants to be friends (meaning cutting off all chances of sleeping with you.) Then find someone else.
2 :
it your decision i would do it probably give him 2 month and see what happening if you dont like your relationship brake up if you like the realtionship then dont breakbup
3 :
yup you will always love ur ex
4 :
he has an asshole
5 :
I think there's no reason to be worried. You are write you are worried just because you have been hurt in the past. And if you are still unsure talk to him about what you are feeling. He said he likes to be honest with you so just open your heart to him. All the best.
6 :
wow ill be worried y because if he is the gentleman he is he wouldn't mind to let you put him on face book he still thinks about her i don't want you to think wrong but things like that happen he still feels something for her supposedly is the mortgage is not that is just he still feeling something for her
7 :
if you have to ask. he probably does.
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He moved over to london from Ireland 10 weeks ago....and it took him 8 weeks to ask me out on a date. He's the perfect gentleman....pays for everything, holds the door open for me, tells me im beautiful all the time and just a really lovely guy. He's very shy and is 8 years older than me. He moved to london for work as Ireland is currently struggling. He was with his ex for 4 years and they have a mortgage together. He was meant to move to london in July but him and his ex tried to work things out but it didn't work...so 2 months later he moved to london. Last nightg we were discussing about announcing our new relationship on facebook but he said he didnt want to yet because he doesnt think its fair that his ex girlfriend finds out he has a new girlfriend over facebook...he wants to remain friends with her because of the mortgage and because two of his best friends are her cousins. He also said they made a pact before he moved over to London if he met anyone else or she met someone else they would tell eachother first. So he wants to tell her face to face when he goes home from christmas. They will see eachother because its a small town and they both have the same friends. He said the only unfinished business them two have is purely financial and I know he isnt with her because he is in a another country....if he wanted to be with her he would still be in ireland or she would of moved with him but I cant help but feel like something dodgy is going on!?!? Like im coming second best to his ex girlfriend. Whats your honest opinion? He said he wants to be honest with me and didnt have to tell me about not wanting to change his relationship status because of his ex but he doesnt want to lie to me. He has done nothing but treat me well and with respect but Im unsure.....!! Ive had horrible relationships in the past so do you think im just worried because ive been hurt before or do you think I have a reason to be worried?? No rude comments please...I'm 20 and he's 28. thanks :)
Friends - 7 Answers
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1 :
Honestly he just wants a piece of ass on the side without his girl friend finding out. Holding doors and being a gentleman just means he really wants yours. I say tell him you just want to be friends then and see what he does. If he wants to be friends (meaning cutting off all chances of sleeping with you.) Then find someone else.
2 :
it your decision i would do it probably give him 2 month and see what happening if you dont like your relationship brake up if you like the realtionship then dont breakbup
3 :
yup you will always love ur ex
4 :
he has an asshole
5 :
I think there's no reason to be worried. You are write you are worried just because you have been hurt in the past. And if you are still unsure talk to him about what you are feeling. He said he likes to be honest with you so just open your heart to him. All the best.
6 :
wow ill be worried y because if he is the gentleman he is he wouldn't mind to let you put him on face book he still thinks about her i don't want you to think wrong but things like that happen he still feels something for her supposedly is the mortgage is not that is just he still feeling something for her
7 :
if you have to ask. he probably does.
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